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writes:I made friends with a girl and we got close but she was going through an extremely hard time and I seemed to become her punchbag for a while.Before this I had told her I felt and she seemed to reciporate we had kissed and almost slept together (but I stopped it)now she claims she was embarassed by this.She seems to have come out of what she was going through and says she wants a fresh start for our frienship. She claims she wants to be mates but she seems to flirt with me still. How can you remain friends with someone you fancy or care deeply about? I dont think shes ready for relationship with anyone but heart says god I wish she was. I dont want to lose her friendship and in the male/woman context I wish I hadnt told her how I felt because it complicated things.We also tend to make jokey snidey comments towards each other sometimes she takes it, other times she reacts in a negative way sometimes I take it to heart but we know deep down theres respect there. Maybe I read into this but its like reverse psychology almost like a courtship game.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 December 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the advice.
Anyone got any hopeful stories of people rejecting them or being rejected but who found that once the initial friendship has been built upon that woman or man has fallen in love?
I guess real love develops through friendship and Im expecting things too quick but shes an amazing girl.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 December 2007): I believe only time can tell where this relationship is headed. Have patience with her. Maybe it isnt the right time for her as you said but in time when she has got all that stress behind her, maybe she'll reconsider about having a relationship with you. Stay close friends with her and maybe sooner than yoou think, the both of you will have something serious. Good luck!
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