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writes:Ok well lets start at the beginning. Its time for outside sources to give me a fresh outlook on this. A year ago i met this man at a heavy metal club (as it happens we only got to talking because he accidently head butted me while headbanging). Nonetheless, i was smitten from that second on. Things went really well. For several months we spoke and saw each other romantically. In my mind no one compared to him, but we never made anything official. After a while i got tired of the games. It was killing me. I was a fool if i thought i'd loved before i met him. I spoke to him about it and he said he adored me but it wasnt the right time. I decided it was time to move on as painful as that was. After all i do not run after that which wont at least meet me half way. I met someone else and moved in with him after a while. When the serial headbutter found out he was furious. Problem is, i still deeply love him, but he now pushes me away, despite my measured attempts. I can understand that i unknowingly hurt him, but its a two way street. Now i spend my days thinking of ways to get him back, even as a friend. Another problem is i dont have his number anymore because in an attempt to get over him, i deleted all forms of possible contact including facebook and his mobile (to stop myself from overly texting him which by some incredible will power i managed not to do). Any ideas? Tips? Advice? Its killing me emotionally.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 November 2008): I dont live with the other guy anymore. I broke up with him before i attempted to get back with HB guy. Sigh. No i cannot recall it on my phone. I even deleted the delivery reports and sent items that had his number attached.
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (15 November 2008):
 A good rule is One guy at a time!
If you ARE totally screwed up over the HBguy (and only you can decide how deep your feelings for him run), you really should leave the guy that you are living with, live on your own, and get yourself sorted. I wouldn't take you seriously if you were living with someone else, that's why HBguy is not open to talking with you, and you would break the heart of the guy you are living with if he found out how you are feeling. Frankly, as you are only living together, not engaged, and not married, I don't think it's wise or kind to stay when your heart is wandering, and frankly, you are single so your feelings are things that you should explore.
ON THE OTHER HAND, if you do love your live-in-boyfriend, and this is just a romantic daydream, you need to leave HBguy alone.
The fact that he was kind of reluctant at first made me wonder if he was attached, and I'm wondering still if he is attached...
Just a few thoughts - and if you are wondering why we have such varied opinions, it's because we aren't there and experiencing it with our own eyes. We're just running through possible scenarios... Good Luck with your decision. XXX
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