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writes: Me and my partner are having big problems with our sex life. He has a high sex drive and I don't. When we are intimate with each other, we use a lot of foreplay before actual penetrative sex, to get in the mood. I thought the effect of this was supposed to be, a better stamina, but it is the opposite. He only lasts about 2 minutes before he reaches his climax, which leaves me high and dry. Please help, it is becoming a big problem.Thanks a lotadamsmum19
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Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A reader, Arawn, writes (15 February 2005): The trick is to give this guy reasurance. He may feel bad in his soul that it all ends too soon our he may not realise you want more. A lot of foreplay is good, great in fact but it may be just getting him too worked up. He needs to learn to pause. There are techniques that you can read about on web sites to prolong the intercourse. Try just typing 'premature ejaculation cures' into your search engine.To surmise them:The trick is for both of you to take your time. If he is getting to the point of no return he must stop and start again when the sensation has passed. You can help him with this.Tricky point is broaching the subject. Maybe say that you want to have him for a longer time inside you because you like it sooo much, and you have heard about a way that will help YOU, can you try it?There are three steps: arousal, stimulation and the ejaculation. You should help him work out how and where his body is during these processes. It will need good comunication.You should use your hand on him, get him hard and stroke him untill he tells you that he is getting ready to cum. Then stop, take your hand away. After a minute start again untill he says stop. Keep doing this for 15 minutes. He needs to be honest with you. But if he does cum, don't worry, just start again when he is ready.Do this for a few nights together, then spice it up a little, use some sort of lube.... baby oil, soap whatever... same technique though... sart and stop....Next, use your mouth as well, if you are comfortable orally stimulate him as well as with your hand. Mouth-wise, talking dirty all ways helps. Start and stop, start and stop.Next step, actual penetrative sex. Same technique, start and stop, start and stop. He should be well trained in the feelings and when to hold off by now. EVen by slowing his strokes he maybe able to lessen the stimulation. Tell him you want that feeling of him inside you to last.When you have reached an agreed time limit, then go for it and enjoy the fireworks.He can and should practise this when 'he is alone'. Encourage him to do so but tactfully as not to question his manhood!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 February 2005): get him to climax first and get him ready foranother round. it will be worth it.
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