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writes: Me n my boyfriend were togther for about 6 months. I love him so much and he feels the same. A lot of things have happened to me the last year and I sank further and further into depression, things such as a miscarriage and my grandma getting and staying extremly ill. He was the only thing that made me happy, he was everything to me. He finished it last week because every time I felt down or upset I took it out on him and started pointless arguments all the time. I only saw him once a week because he trains six days a week, so that put a strain on him. We still talk and he said he wants to be friends and he still loves me. I'm now on tablets for the depression and feel better. What I would like to know is how can I get him back? He means the world to me, please help me. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 November 2007): i met a man who did all the chasing would send me lovely messages, wined and dined me etc. One day I sent a text message saying as a joke as i had hundreds of offers of dates which i decline what does he want in this relationship am i to be something more meaningful or just abit of fun.
He then promptly replied i shall have to say goodby so you can pursue all those hundreds of dates i think you are a lovely and nice perosn but i have to say goodbye and wish you everything you ever wish for lots of love. Thats th elast i heard from him him ignores every text i send and wont answer my calls. Please help I have tried to say i was joking. What can i do to get him back
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2005): There has been a lot of strain on your relationship, considering you were only together for a relatively short time, and recovering from depression is a long process.Obviously, you need people to lean on to help you through, and perhaps someone who you have romantic feelings for is not the best person to rely on, as it can complicate matters.If you have other friends that you can talk through all the problems and stresses you have had in your life this year, then that's what you need to be doing.By all means stay in touch with your man, and on a friendly basis, but a bit of space can never be a bad thing. It gives you both time to work out your feelings for each other. If you have a strong relationship, and really love each other, then having a bit of space won't break that apart. And besides that, it is always best to be with a man because you want to be with him, and not just because you are feeling vulnerable.So let him know that you want a bit of space to get yourself together, and that you'd like to stay in touch, and that you hope that you can go back to being more than friends a little way down the line. Don't put any pressure on him, just make sure he knows that you still see him as boyfriend material so that you don't get stuck as being "just friends" and hopefully in due course, when you're both sure about it, things will fall into place and you'll know that it's because he wants to be with you, not just because he feels guilty or because you've pressured him into it.
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