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writes:I just moved to a new city same state. At my old school I was just getting involed with boys. I was in 7th grade then. And now I am in 8th and I moved here over the summer.So Im in 8th grade now suopose to be in 9th. But lately I have been making out with diff boys and that already messed up my rep at a new school. But I never use to be like this it's like I've changed or somethin. But I just meet this boy who is very attractive and good looking. And alot of girls think that he is cute and like him. Now im not the girl to fall for a boy reall. Because alot of boys always like me and theirs always more than one falling for me even now. But anyways One day my friend invited him to the park and she invited me to because I live close. So I go not knowing that he was there. So it was about 10:30p.m and she had to go wit her step dad. So he was going to walk me home. So me and him strated to talking as he walked me home and we ended up talkin about who we liked. He wouldnt tell me but I knew it was me. but I didnt want it to be me cuz my friend liked him. But I liked someone else that I was still talking to. So by the time we got to my house he told me that it was me that he liked. So he gave me his number and ever since then we were talking constantly. Now one day he wanted to meet up like around my house and I did but the first time we kissed it felt so amazing. But I felt guilty cuz I was talking to someone and he was tlking to my friend that liked him but he didn't like her. So After that I tld him that I felt that way. And he knew about the other boy and he didnt care. He just told me that he dosent like my friend and he likes me not her. So me and him kept meeting up. Every meeting became more and more intimate. We were'nt boyfriend girlfriend just friends of benefits. So he stop talking to my friend but no one knew me and him met up at night i would sneak out to meet him and our little spot. So we finally got into the topic about sex while texting . And one day he made a remark to me bcuz he found out that I had made out with this boy along time ago. So he said"So do you do the same things you do with me with the other boys"?. And I replided" No! And y does it matter that happened along time ago." And I said "So do you beleive me that i dont do the same thing?" And he jus said " We'll see." And by that I knew he wanted some. So he kept asking if I could go over. And I finally went to his house on a day no one had school and both our parents had work. And I really think I mean KNOW I did it for the wrong reason. And the next day I go to school and he told people and now everyone knew. So even though I didn't like him I was in it for the benefits too. I got hurt in the end cuz it's like I would have never thought him out of all people would do such a thing. Up to last week he is still trying to have me go over his house. But all I want to do is like meet up again at our spot, not his house. I think now that we went all the way he thinks their would be no use in just making out like before when you can go all the way. But I've ben making excuse on why i cant come to his house. But I'm still really hurt on the fact that we dont see each other becuz we did it, And a lot of boys are still trying to be my bf and get with me but I'm just tired of everything and don't want new boys I just wanna stick with what I had...
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reader, chrissib08 +, writes (6 January 2009):
honestly. i think you should send him to the left. it seems lik you two have two very different intentions for eachother and the fact that he went to your school the next day and told everyone just confirms that he's obviously not the type of guy you want to get involved with. since you have boys on the side you know their always going to be there so you should definitely try'n focus on school and getting back to your old self. and as for the people tlkn at school. jus let em talk. they definetly gon do it regardless of wether you want them to or not. it'll die down eventually; if they have something negative to say about you jus smile and walk away. you don't anyone an explanation . . . we all make mistakes; the best thing to do is just accecpt them and move on . . .
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reader, The Gentle Man  +, writes (5 January 2009):
 Well dearcupid.org is a place to ask questions and you have asked none.I'm not normally harsh but here is the problem. You couldn't say no and keep your legs closed. He is just a boy and of course he is going to tell his friends.In future you might consider getting to really know a boy and perhaps go out for a month or 2 before having sex with them. That way you will see the genuine article, if a guy forces the subject and says he will leave if no sex, then he's not a good guy.
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reader, MichaelS2 +, writes (5 January 2009):
 Well this is why your parents and sex ed teachers advise you to wait.The boys at your school aren't mature and would spread stories such as yours.You got pressured into sex,and it was for the wrong reasons.You had sex so someone would accept you.I'm not trying to be mean but this is the exact reason why parents advise you to wait because they know you will end up regretting it.I honestly don't think the boy is worth your time and you should forget about him.But now you have to worry about why a boy wants to go out with you because they all heard you slept with another boy,so they will think your easy.I really do wish young girls would listen to their mothers when they say to wait until your older or even your sex ed teachers.I'm an 18 year old male virgin and I have no problem with it. I advise you not to begin to sleep around as that would worsen your reputation .Just keep your head up and stay single for sometime and let the stories calm down.If you feel antsy or horny,Don't turn to a boy,You can always please yourself!And if you do need to turn to a boy than try oral and fingers.
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