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writes: hello. Im a little bit confused because everything i have heard implies the contrary. Im 19 years old lost my virginity tonight and it didnt hurt .. at all. is this unusual?
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reader, Bev Conolly  +, writes (19 July 2006):
 Agree with the three Aunts below. I think you read and hear about the painful experiences, because those whose first sex doesn't hurt tend not to talk very much about it. So one hears a bias towards the oh-my-god-I'm-tearing-apart stories, even if they might be atypical.
I think most women experience a certain level of discomfort, but by no means pain, so don't worry. There's nothing 'wrong' with you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 July 2006): Oh gosh no--not at all unusual. It all depends on the woman. Some have pain the first and others do not. Both experiences are common. Most often it has to do with the woman's 'hymen'. If during intercourse, her hymen is stretched, it may be painful. However, with some women, the hymen has been opened due to participating in sports, bicyle riding, etc. Masturbating will also break down the hymen over a period of time, if there is a certain degree of penetration. It also helps when a women is relaxed and well lubricated, just before intercourse and has a gentle, caring partner.
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reader, snowbird  +, writes (19 July 2006):
 I'm no doctor, but I am sure you have nothing to worry about. I did'nt feel any pain when I lost mine. I think I read somewhere that many girls have broken their hymen whilst riding a horse!; also if you use tampons (or a vibrator) this happens.. it is only a thin layer of skin, after all..so be happy! :)
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reader, tyler's_cowgirl +, writes (19 July 2006):
 It's not unusual at all. Some girls experience pain where as others will feel nothing but a little pressure.
Reasons being is your hymen (the flap of skin covering the vagina) may have been or you may have already broken it. Breaking it can be as simple as riding a horse, riding a bike, masturabtion with penitration, being fingered.... Don't worry about it. There is no set mold for how loosing your virginity "should" feel.
:) tyler's_cowgirl
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