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26-29,
*itkatlolly
writes:Dear cupidMe and my best friend go to the same school. At the start of 2010 we became really good friends with this other girl in our school and she introduced us to this guys from another school and then these girls from another school. Lets call my bestFriend Zara* and the other friend April* and the guys school *St . Maurices and girls school *Holly Road . So me and zara became really really good friends with these people straight away. We hung out with them every weekend from January to June. I liked this guy Adam* in St. Maurices and we started 'meeting' ( informally dating but all qualities of going out ) in May and went out for a week( very very complicated ) and broke up at the end of June. Then April met ( made out , snog , french kiss) with him a week later and that was a turning point in our friendship and we had a bit of a fight but we made up after a week. Then at the start of the new school year we went to our friend in Holly Roads house party . My friend Zara drank and got with alot of guys ( i got with a few aswell but she got more crap about it ) including a guy our friend liked . So Zara and the Holly Road girls had a huge fight and now arent friends anymore. Since I am Zara's bestfriend it affected me too and I dont hang out with them anymore even though I tried to be friends with them again. So now we basiscally dont talk to them and I miss them and Im angry I lost them as friends because Of what Zara did. Then Zara had a fight with April and ended up affecting me because Im her bestfriend. I tried to reach out to April to stay friends but she ignored me . And recently our guy friends in St. Maurices have been drifting from us ever since the fight with the Holly Park girls. And our friend in St. Maurices lets call him Dylan* . He had never kissed a girl before so Zara said ' this is me helpin you out as a friend ' and they met ( made out- in America , snog in England, french kiss) . Then Dylan liked her and Zara didnt like him back so she told him and he was upset and all the St. Maurices guys were mad at her and she snapped back at them because she hates losing fights. Also recently she has been treating me differently , she says im not acting like myself and whenever something bad happens she doesnt sympathise or support me and tells me just to get over it :/ . And whenever shes talking bout people who dont like her she always says' we or us' . Like ' They hate us ' or 'they dont like hanging out with us ' even though its just her. Its like she has to bring me down with her . And I was talking to her about what was happening with the St. Maurices guys and she was like ' They dont want to hang out with us anymore , get over it' . Im SO SICK or losing friends because of her and im really upset :( help ! Xxx
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reader, aunt honesty +, writes (10 January 2011):
 Well even though she is your best friend if she falls out with someone it shouldnt mean that you speak to them less either she needs to learn from her mistakes not you. Therefore you should contact the friends that you have lost and explain to them that you would like to remain friends with them as you feel you have drifted apart and you miss hanging out with them even if it means zara is not part of that. Just because two friends fall out doesnt mean that it should involve you. If zara is your best friend then she will be able to accept that you have other friends as well.
Goodluck.
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