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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:hi,i just need an opinion hereok in september of last year i started college or tec.i made a good group of friends but one particular friend of mine she has a guy best friend who; btw only knew me for a day and showed an interest in me (which doesnt happen to me at all) then he asked was i single etc... all those kinds of questions then asked did i have/use webcam i said no because guys come on and expect girls to do things for them just so they can 'get off' and i made it as clear as i could that im not that type of girl, i said im looking for a decent relationship not to be used as a sex toy. so then he starts sending me all these really inappropriate texts and that kind of thing bugs me because he shows he has no respect for girls; but merely looking for the chance to get off. so i no longer talk to him because thats all he has on his mind, i was flattered at first that a guy liked me but i remain skeptical of guys and dont fall too far too fast; i was flattered end of. right up until his true colours shone through. Now i have a sneaky suspicion that hes telling other guys that im 'experienced' and its making them think im a slut which i most definately am not, i prefer to be respected by guys not used to fulfil their sexual fantasies. i am being badgered by all those comments by these guys and i just want to be left alone because im definately not the girl they think i am and i wont be that type of girl. i wont give in to that crap! i definately want a decent and honest and respectful relationship not a one night stand. i want this to end, because i can assure all of you i have never come across sleazy or slutty because thats not my personality and when it comes to guys im extremely shy and dont like to enter into relationships until im completely comfortable with it. so i just want all this absolute crap to stop.
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reader, Welsh Uncle Dave +, writes (10 January 2011):
It's good to see someone not desperate to lose their virginity or put out like it's going out of fashion.
Unfortunately, it seems this guy has felt jilted and deems it appropriate to make a scapegoat out of you.
Stopping these sorts of messages isn't easy, but don't rise to the bait and don't take the messages personally.
You are dealing with immature people here and they will soon get bored.
I don't care what people think of me or say about me, it's their opinion, but it's my life and I will carry on they way I am and won't let people influence it.
Rise above it, keep doing what you are doing. Sticks and stones and all that.
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