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writes:I am a virgin female in her early-mid 20's. I was not necessarily waiting for marriage, but I was waiting for the right, long term relationship that could lead to marriage. I'd like to think I've found him.My boyfriend, who is not a virgin, was unsurprisingly very excited when I told him I think we should have sex soon.However maybe I should have hold off on telling him that.This is very awkward, but I'm a bit wary for multiple reasons. One is our height difference. I am 5'2 115lbs. He is 6'4 and about 210lbs. Not only that but he is, speaking about his intimate areas, "above average" in size.I just imagine this being awkward and uncomfortable, mostly because of our height difference. I want it to be sexy, fun, and memorable. This sounds very lame but I don't know how this is going to work. Admittedly, as a virgin, I'm not at all experienced when it comes to sex.I don't want him to think I'm putting it off, or changed my mind, and I don't want to get his hopes up high for nothing. I also don't want to tell him my fears because that's pretty unsexy!Anyone have any advice with this? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 September 2013): Don't worry you will be able to handle his size, remember babies come out of there, it is designed to stretch.
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reader, sharptextures +, writes (3 September 2013):
 You're the same height laying down. Don't worry too much about that part.
You might wanna start with just playing around first before you actually do sex. Practice foreplay, fingers, figure out how much you need before you're ready for penetration. It's not an either or thing, have full on sex or go without completely, go at your pace. Maybe include some extra lubricant if you think you need it, it can help a lot.
Talk to him. Before, during, after and figure it out. Everyone is nervous their first time but with the right prep it's normally not a problem.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (3 September 2013):
 It will be memorable but not the way you want.
It may not be fun.
It will probably not be sexy...
BTW LAUGHING IN BED when it goes all wrong is FINE!
DO NOT plan this to be perfect it won't.
By all means tell him your fears... he will understand
as for height you will be lying down so height does not matter at all...
the right parts will line up as needed.
the last time my hubby and I started something I rolled over and elbowed him in the eye... end of something started....
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (3 September 2013):
 Honestly, I don't think there is a guy out there who would have a problem knowing that their GF thinks they are BIG. So BE honest with him, it might even make him be extra gentle.
Very few guys are so big that the vagina can't accommodate them. If you two TAKE your time with foreplay and get you plenty aroused and the take it slow it should be fine, no matter his size.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 September 2013): My uncle and his wife are almost the same height as you and your boyfriend, and they are happily married for over 30 years. They have 3 children so I'm guessing they didn't have any problems in bed.About your boyfriend's member. Compared to the female member size, no male member can be considered large. It's just the muscles that make the female member look tight and small. So if the female is aroused and the muscles are relaxed down there, she can take any size even in her first time. On the other hand, even small male members can cause pain if the woman is not aroused.Think about your first time with him. If you feel uncomfortable or worried about it, explain to him and postpone it until you're ready. I'm sure he will understand. But I still think there is nothing to worry. Worst case, he will try and you will stop him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 September 2013): You ll be fine with height difference. I am 5.4 and my boyfriend is 6.3. It's not as significant difference as you'd but still quite a bit. We are managing just fine. At first he would just crash on me afterv he was finished, and sometimes I had a feeling that I couldn't breath,but when I told him that he needs to find another place, lol, he goes on a side of me. About his penis size. My first boyfriend was large too, but I don't think it's a matter of his size, it's how he uses it and how excited and moist you are. Of course he has to be very carefull not Togo all the way in at least first times. But the most important is foreplay. My boyfriend was very inexperienced like me, and we struggled with it for a few days, but we also were in our teens. Hopefully your boyfriend knows what he is doing.:)
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