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writes:hey..m in a comitted relationship since 9months.its a ldr..and last time i visited my bf was 3months back.well in terms of acaedemics my bf is very brainy.he studies in india's top coaching class..last year he only studied for few days and left studying!!he was thrown out of the coaching class.so this time he gave an entrance test..and he is in the topper's batch!and i m also good in studies but not as good as my bf.in boards he scored 93.5% and i got 88%.well i am not jealous of my bf.but dun know why i start having a very different feeling.i dun know how i will cope up.i feel like i m a loser in front of him.he's genius,m trying hard to be one..i dun know what to do...in future we have decided to live together..i think m not at par of him..and these feelings r eating me from inside.what to do?how to get rid of these feelings?i do become slightly jealous..even if i dun want to.what to do?
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reader, manperson101  +, writes (1 May 2010):
If he's rubbing it in your face then he sounds like a bit of a dick. Its not so much that he's clever, more that he's just not very nice.
Unless he's trying to make a joke and doesn't realise how inferior it makes you feel. In that case maybe just talk to him and tell him
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionu can say a bit jealous.the problem is that sometimes he boasts off and makes fun of me..teases me..and i dun like that.and we hardly talk about academics!
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reader, manperson101 +, writes (6 April 2010):
OK is it that you feel i)you're not good enough for him? ii)you're jealous of how well he does? iii)hes arrogant about/a bit of a bore? or iv)you don't have much in common because your intellect is so different?
Decide whats valid because the answer will vary accordingly.
Looking at what you've said in your question, it seems like you think hes better than you. You have to realise that this is only one area, academics. You may be better than him at other things that he might be jealous of. Everyone has strengths and weaknesses so don't worry if hes better than you when it comes to acadmia. He must have a reason for being with you.
You have to decide whether your insecurity over your own academic inferiority is more important than your relationship with your boyfriend.
Perhaps talk to him, although I wouldn't say you should start spouting all of your insecurities on him because that might scare him.
Anyway, good luck with it!
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