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writes:So i really need advice because i dont kno if i should lose my virginity right now to this guy..he gets his license in 2 days. only 2 DAYS! and thats how much time i have left to decide because that is when he gets his license. and when he does, he plans on having sex. we are not together, but we have been friends for over a year and our relationship has been purely sexual, even tho im a virgin. deep inside, i dont think i should cuz i think the only thing he wants is sex. but at the same time, I REEEEEAALLLY want to have sex with him cuz im sooooooo damn attracted like its not even funny. he reminds me of a celebrity i was obsessed with growing up. imagine if the hottest guy you loved watchin on tv, was ur friend and u talk to him all the time. u kno how hard that is not to just jump on him? haha but im really into him too. he's very smart, funny, talented. he's perfect. the only problem is that he really wants sex. when i asked him if he would actually fuck any decent girl, he was ''probably'' he just loves the ladies and he even cheated on some before. he cheated on one of them WITH me =/ he probly doesn't feel the same way i feel about him even tho he says he really wants me..but i think he only wants to get in my pants..he IS a good guy but i dont kno if i should lose it to him and i have no idea what to say to him when he's gonna ask to make plans soon..im incredibly attracted to him but i dont want to do something i'll regret and get hurt by cuz it will hurt me to see him try to get with someone else or flirt with other girls..but its so hard to say no when he's gonna text to hang out soon. I HAVE 2 DAYS TILL THEN! im expecting u guys to tell me not to have sex with him but i really need to hear great advice that it will stick in my head and something to remember when talkin to him..cuz like i said, its really hard to say no to him
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reader, orangejuice24 +, writes (4 February 2009):
all i can say is dont be taken advantage of by him. he is just looking for sex. dont do it. i am 18 and im still a virgin. you should wait until you find a person who loves you as much as you love them, thats what i am doing.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 February 2009): DON'T HAVE SEX WITH HIM.HE IS ONLY LOOKIN FOR THAT FROM YOU.
Now why I say no because you guys are suppose to be friends and that would mess up any type of freindship you have with him and anyways your young.why would u want to lose your virginity now just because he is getting his license.
What that all about?you have all the time on earth to have a good choice on who will be your first.
Taking your time thinking if you just want sex or an acual relationship with someone you love and loves you back.Virginity is not a thing to through around like it just an object is something preciouse and special.
Just don't have sex cuz of a physical attraction wait for that right person in your life you will love and love you with or without a drivers license.Unless he needs it to prove he can "drive" if u kno what I'm trying to say.lmfao.=D yeah cuz that don't have nothing to do with sex.
Be smart and be careful
Take care
Sherry=D
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 February 2009): Speaking from experience you want to lose your virginity to someone who loves you, NOT someone who loves sex...
Tell him that....
The fact you came to dearcupid means your conscience knows this already...
Good luck, stay strong
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reader, Stayc63088 +, writes (3 February 2009):
 Yes everyone will tell you not to. The best advice why is because you will remember your first person you had sex with forever. Do you want to lose it to a guy who would have sex with any decent girl? And clearly you care about him so it will only hurt you. And you have 2 days to decide? This whole thing makes me sad. I feel so old fashioned but seriously what is going on these days? Time limits to lose virginity to a guy who doesn't give 2 shits about you? You need to have sex with someone you love and who loves you. It is important. What you have is lust, which is good to have if you have love as well. You will regret giving your virginity to him. My boyfriend lost his to a girl he didn't care for and tells me to this day he wishes it never happened. There is nothing like losing your virginity to someone you care about and they care about you. The first time matters. Every time matters. This guy just wants sex, and you know it because you told us. How does it make you feel when he says any decent girl would do?? It can't make you feel special. PLEASE PLEASE do not have sex with this guy. If you don't think you can stop yourself then stop contact with him. It will be a huge mistake. Use your common sense, you know it won't be the right thing to do. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 February 2009): i have done something like that exactly! and honestly i did have sex with him, and in the moment, it was the BEST experiance ever! it felt amazing and i was sooo happy i did it, and then he moved in with his girlfriend and he is cheating on her right now, but thats not my place, but it KILLS me inside to see him with other girls, and as much i enjoyed it when it was happening, i wish i did not do it. Hun you should save that for someone special. you only get to give it up one time. make it a special time with a special person. best of luck xoxo
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reader, aunty_rach  +, writes (3 February 2009):
if all he wants is sex, then what more do you expect from him? he won;t want anything more.
also if you don't want sex...DON'T HAVE SEX WITH HIM! you will regret it. i just asked a question about this actually, about young girls feeling pressured to have sex even though they are not ready.
don't have sex, just because "he's planning to" what sort of guy does that make him? a pig! don't do it, it's not worth the heart ache.
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