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writes: I have a strange situation. I am very good friends with two separate individuals, one male "Jack" and one female "Nancy". She and I have known each other for a few a while and have become closer friends as of late, and "Jack" entered our group recently. "Nancy" has had a serious crush on "Jack" since she first met him. The twist of this is that "Jack" and I get along superbly well - we have a tremendous amount of things in common, but I don't harbor romantic feelings for him. Also, he harbors no romantic feelings for me. "Nancy" has become jealous of "Jack's" and my friendship and is claiming that I have feelings for him. While I have assured her, short of a blood oath on a stack of bibles, that this is not true, she still believes it. In trying to be a good friend, I have distanced myself from "Jack" since she basically forbid me to speak to him. Now the situation is that we all are awkward around each other and I can't speak with either of my good friends, since "Nancy" doesn't want to speak to me and I can't speak to "Jack". What's a girl to do? Help!
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reader, orangesuk +, writes (21 April 2006):
Honestly, I think you should tell Nancy that she is totally out of order. Like you said, you and Jack have a lot in common and obviously get on really well and now you arent really comfortable with either of them. Why should you sacrifice a friendship because Nancy is jealous?!? If she doesnt want to speak to you it is because she knows she is in the wrong and when she does speak to you she is going to have to apologise for being totally unreasonable.You and Jack dont have romantic feelings for each other so what is her problem? Plus, does Jack even have romantic feelings for Nancy? Because if not this is a whole waste of time and effort.You need to set Nancy straight and explain that if she cant handle you and Jack being FRIENDS then it will ruin all of your relationships, including Nancys with Jack, and then there will be no chance of her getting together with him.
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