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*iceguy07
writes:I have been single now for about 4 weeks, I ended a 13 month relationship for the 2nd time and this time for good. The last time I eneded it we got back to together in about 4 days. I have gone through the hurt and the anger and now find myself at peace with the fact that she started talking to another guy. To be honest I did not see myself being with her forever. She is a smoker with no plans to quit, I am a health freak who hits the gym 4-5 times a week. So now my issue is with such a full schedule on my hands how do I meet someone new? I work 4 days out of the week and go to school the other 3 days of the week. Needless to say I am not trying to get into a long term relationship at the moment but I do wanna meet someone. If something seems right however I am not gonna shy away from a relationship but I'm not going around looking for one simply because I dont have time. Any advice on how I can meet a new person?
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reader, scythe  +, writes (9 February 2008):
 I think that you should give yourself some more time before you start looking for someone else. I know I'm not you, but 4 weeks seems like a short amount of time.. you might still be on the rebound.
You don't necessarily have to share *all* your hobbies and interests with your partnes (but having a few in common is a must!) as long as they *respect* your interests.
Maybe you will meet someone at work or school, or even at a bar or someplace random. I don't think your full schedule will be too much of a problem. Lots of people work full time and still manage to meet new people and have serious relationships.
And I'm with you on the romantic thing. I'm hopelessly romantic but it seems that most guys these days aren't! It's such a shame.
Anyway, goodluck with work, school and finding someone new!
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reader, niceguy07 +, writes (9 February 2008):
niceguy07 is verified as being by the original poster of the question thank you for your advice but i see myself as a romantic in a pool of non romantics. I firmly believe in winning a womans heart in any way possible but my ex just did not want that. We were together for over a year but i played into what she wanted and not what i wanted...so i know we were not meant to be and i am ok. maybe i do need some more time to get over her but i just sometimes feel as if i am living in the past. Not in the sense that i cannot get over her but in the sense that i love to set up romantic dinners and buy flowers for no reason and do things that are just romantic in general. I just feel women in this day in age are not into that anymore. But thats who i am. If i feel strongly about someone i will show it with flowers or candle lit dinners. Not that its what i do all the time but once in a while at least. I dunno, but i just hope i meet my other half because the career i am getting into will not let me have the time to do that.
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reader, Sweet-thing  +, writes (9 February 2008):
 First of all you should give yourself some time to get over your ex and just focus on yourself for awhile. The time will come soon enough and you will meet someone new and by then, given the healing process, you will be ready devote yourself again. In the meantime, do what you enjoy and know that you will eventually meet someone who enjoys the same things. That's where the perfect match will come from. Common interests and hobbies. It'll happen when the time is right. Good luck. xoxox
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