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writes:So here is a dandy. I met a girl on the net about a month ago. We met on a video chat website, and at first we just talked, you know the normal 'hi, how are ya's' But we quickly started sharing pictures and falling for each other. There is an age difference of about 4 years, no biggie, I'm 23 she's 18. It is a very long distance relationship, being that I am in alaska (out of school and working) and she is on the east coast going to college.So the 4000 some odd miles are a bit of a pain since we have never met and getting to that point that I would like to meet (if I could save the money) and she told me the other day that she would like to wait longer. We talk every day, we have even experimented with the phone sex (I under estimated how weird that is.) But now I am at odds on if this relationship is going anywhere, or if we are just treading water. We have both told each other that we love each other, in fact we remind each other every day. I am just having problems deciding if it's worth it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 November 2008): This is a very big decision. Personally I don't think LDs really work but as you're older than me, it would probably be easier for you to get to each other, or if one of you were to move. But if you did decide to move then you would need to make sure you didn't regret leaving everything behind. So yeah really you need to meet up lots and get to know each other so you can be really sure. But you've only known each other a month which really isn't long and you'll probably find it easier to move on now than if you decide to give up later. You are both so young so likelihood is that one of you will want to move on at some point (most likely her as she is still a teenager.)
All I'm saying is that it could work, but the chances are slim, so you both have to REALLY want it to actually follow through with it =]
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 November 2008): I can relate! Except for the age factor. There are also 4 years between my guy and I (62/58) We also met online. I live in Arizona, he in Maine (approximately 3800 miles) We talked on the phone (after the chatline just wasn't enough) for anywhere from 2-6 hours a night. After months of this he sent me a ticket to visit him in June. I went! We really hit it off! In September, he came here to Phoenix. Now we are in Love! Our big decision is which one of us is going to make the move!
My point is...how bad do you want this to work? And by you I mean both of you! I realize at your ages it is different because neither of you have a lot of history and may not want to committ to an exclusive relationship.
You have to weigh the pros and cons...and talk these things out with your girl.
Good Luck
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