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writes:Hi,My boyfriend and I have a long distance Relationship. That was love at first sigh! Feelings i never had before and that on!, Now, We have 6 months of know, and 3 and a half living together, Now we are away of each other again. He loves me and is so nice with me, BUT i don't feel the same anymore, down, might be depression, just seeing is so complicated to be together, he has to work and so on. We are in different continents, and i start to think about break up, or take some time, its just a confused feeling, if what we are doing is good? He must look other women more close of him, better? such a kindness thoughts, but i still having on me.My question is, what you can suggest me to do?, I love him, but probably the love flame is getting off, maybe i can try to get it on again? One time i talked with him about give time and he was crying about it, How can i deal with it? I appreacited your suggestionsCheers
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 December 2008): hey there....i am in the exactly say situation. i totally love my boy friend and he says that he still love me too. i have no idea how things will work out. i want to be close to him, i want to go out on dates with him. he is so busy with his new job...it is not like i am not happy that he go a new job and he is doing great,, it is that he does not call as much. i am totally heart broken; i miss him so much. i do not know what to do.
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reader, Miss Potter  +, writes (27 November 2008):
 Hi.
First do not rush into any decisions, since you are appart you pretty much have all the time in the world to think everything through.
In a long distance relationship it is very VERY important to have an end goal - i.e. getting together for good, or moving together to the same country, or at least making some long term plans. Otherwise it becomes very hard to stay strong as you start asking yourself what are you doing it for, whats the hassle all about.
So I suggest you first figure out whether you want to be with him, whether you are both prepared to make the effort to stay in touch regularly and see each other when possible. If will all the communication and seeing each other you decide that you are right for each other then you will have to start making some plans for the future.
If you dont see being with each other years down the line I say it is not worth it, staying together, going through all ups and downs of the relationship on your own.
Long distance relationships work if you really want to be with your partner, that you make the effort to keep in touch regularly, be there for each other when the other one feels down, and of course it wont work without trust, jealousy can be a huge issue.
All the best.
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