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anonymous
writes:Hey everybody! I feel really insecure about a boy i recently met. Just 2 weeks ago we met in a pub and hit it right of. I havent felt this way in a long long time! We only know eachother for 2 weeks but we text everyday and see eachother a lot.The problem: He is going to move 3 hours travelling away from me! Because this is so new I dont know what to do? Quit before I get hurt or give it shot?Is it even possible to make this work when you know eachother for such a short period?
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reader, Aunty Babbit  +, writes (4 October 2013):
 All relationships have to be worked at but long distance relationships are really hard. That's not to say they can't work.
My husband and I started out with a LDR (hard to believe now) we had only been together a couple of weeks when circumstances forced him to move back with his family for a bit (2 1/2 hours from where I lived).
Work commitments, family responsibilities etc meant we only saw each other every other weekend and in between times we texted, chatted on the phone and online (IM no webcam back then).
For us this worked well (as much as it was hard to be apart) because it gave us time to focus on our own lives and get to know each other and build a relationship.
It actually gave us time to really talk to each other and get to know each other. After 18 months, when visiting, he decided he didn't want to go back to his home and he moved in with me. The rest, as they say, is history.
LDR's can have benefits because you do spend a lot of time talking and sharing stuff, which I think helps build a strong relationship, but there has to be total trust, especially when your partner goes out with friends or co workers. If you're the green eyed monster type I think a long distance relationship would be too difficult to handle.
If, as you say, this relationship has a major spark and you're both feeling it, what else can you do but give it a go?
Better to try and fail then forever wonder "What if?"
Just remember to make time for each other every day (a date if you like) but don't put your day to day life on hold for it. Work your LDR into and around your daily life.
I really hope this works out for you.
I hope this helps AB x
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reader, llifton  +, writes (4 October 2013):
 Three hours is nothing when you like each other. My ex and I lived the same distance away for a year. We saw each other multiple times a week still. Where there is a will, there is a way.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 October 2013): I know some aunts are going to say stay with it. You're just too young to torture yourself that way. The relationship is so new that it would be better to let it go. Stay available for guys you can enjoy spending time with.You can have interpersonal contact and share things in-person. Something real, and not connected by a digital device. You'll get stressed out. You'll miss him. He'll want to do things and you'll worry when you don't hear from him. Then there is the temptation of meeting nice people you like; as opposed to some person you can only keep in touch through devices.Enjoy being young and leave the stressful stuff for us old folks. Don't attach yourself. Get out and date boys you can hold hands with, kiss, and hangout. Not sit around wondering when he'll call; or sit home alone waiting for text messages to keep you company.
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