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writes:i am 26 educated bold and strong lady.problem is that i a am married to a man 6 months ago to whom i met online somehow. he seems very innocent sweet and kind person to me although he was not much educated and is a average looking man after 2 month of telephonic friendship we decided to get married and it happend so fast.he wanted me to quit my job ( i was earning very good that time) reasoning that i would move to him(abroad) in next 2 months so he wants me to stay with my inlaws.after marriage he stayed with me for 20 days.in those 20 days i found that he is not like me for example i am very confident girl but he very shy i m romantic and he is very practical and so many other diffrences.his father is like a dictator in home. i m only daughter in law in that house and all of them want me to change myself according to thier wishes and my husband is with them.there is no one there to whom i can share my pains problems and worries.i can not even talk to my mother because this marriage was my decision. my parents were not much happy for this marriage. i dont know wat to do. when i talk to my husband regarding this he simply turns his mood off and eventally i get upset as if i am complaning wrong.i left my job and it is very hard to find another good job even my in-laws and husand dont want me to be financially independent.point he give is that i have to go to him (but when i dont know)my husband says that he loves me but i irretate him so very much.i dont know wat to doplesae advice something
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 February 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionMy english is poor for reason that this is not my mother language but a way to communicate.
yes i admit that i hasted my marriage decision but anywayz
thanks for your answers :) blessings
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 February 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionMy english is poor for reason that this is not my mother language but a way to communicate.yes i admit that i hasted my marriage decision but anywayzthanks for your answers :) blessings
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 February 2009): Okay, first thing, you say your educated, but, the words you typed look like that of a 10 year old! Second thing, you married a man, after a very short period of time! Sounds like you aren't very smart! You made a hard bed and now it's time to sleep in it! Marriage is supposed to be forever, so deal with it and try to be happy!
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 February 2009): Well, you know that this marriage was made in haste. This man is not suitable for you. It was a mistake and you'll either A) continue to stay with him and become resentful or B) divorce him OR separate with him for the time being and do your own thing.
The C option which I did not put together up there has to do with staying together with him and try to turn the marriage into a period of dating. This means, do the whole dating thing while being married. If this does not work, do B. However, I just don't see it working at all. This is not a matter of needing counseling. This is a matter of personality incompatibilities.
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