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writes:hey,i don't know from where i start.i was in relationship for more than 2 years,and i just get married lately.my husband was living with his mother,she is at the sixties,to take care of her,because his sister never want to take care of her ,anyway before we get married he told me that he will move and get apartment so when i come i have my own privacy ,but i did not want him to do it because i felt bad for the women and i did not want to leave her alone.by the way i was in other country ,and i had to move to my husband country that's mean i don't know his mother well till we got married.in brief,lately she is getting on my nerves and i cant bear her any more,because she doesn't like me move any things,when i am in the kitchen she always keep asking me what i am doing or if she hears any thing she ask for ,when we going out she asks us where we are going,she is just start to get on my nerves.and lately she tells me that i hide things from her ,like putting things back in refrigerator so she cant see them,or she says to me that i told her something (that i really did not say ,)she is not bad women but i have no privacy in this house.i don't really know what to do.i told my husband every thing,but he always tell me that i am the one chose all this things,because when he asked me to move i kept telling him no.and also he doesn't know what to do ,he is in between us.he doesnt want to leave her alonei don't really know what to do or how i act,i don't feel like i am in my home,i feel i am watched,and i want to move from here and let her daughter take care of her because she is ungrateful she never say we are siting here with her to help her ,she think she is the one doing favor by siting with us.what should i do ?help me pleaze? Reply to this Question
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reader, lena1 +, writes (29 January 2009):
lena1 is verified as being by the original poster of the question thank you for ur reply,his mother likes me because i am the only one act with her nice.she is just driving me crasy with her craznes.
any way i appreciate your answer.thank you very much
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reader, jenr9074 +, writes (22 January 2009):
 Tough situation. I guess what I would do is become her best friend. Offer to take her out, do things that she likes. Spend time with her and make her laugh. Show her that your the best person for her son and you want nothing but for her to be happy and for her son to be happy. Talk to her about her past and things like she liked doing when she was young or things that she has experienced in her past. Ask questions and let her know how much you care about her and appreciate being apart of her life. Remember you live with her too. Don't complain to your husband about his mother anymore. What I would do is kinda laugh about it and be like ha ha ha your mother was being silly today, then go down on him quitely in the bedroom. You can't talk about a mans mother to him. Give it time the closer you become with the mother the more your husband will start to complain about how much she is annoying him. I'm sure there is things about her that drives him nuts as well but your doing enough complaining for the both of them. Screw the daughter as you become closer to the mother then you can say it would be nice to have a girls lunch or something. This will make the mother happy and probably start to like you as a person more then the daughter because your always there and want to spend time with her. Remember you can catch more flies with honey then vineger. Hope this helps.
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