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writes:I am a 15 year old girl from New York. And my boyfriend is a 13 year old boy from New York as well. He lives two hours away from me, where I used to live but my parents moved me, and I ranaway to see him. And I ended up getting pregnant by him. And my parents are really racist, and I know they wouldn't like my baby. And his parents really like me and want me and the baby to stay at their house with the father of the baby. And my parents don't approve of me living with my boyfriend or having the baby. I was wondering if it was possible for me to live at my boyfriends house to raise our baby even if my parents don't want me to? I just want the baby to grow up with his/her mom and dad around unlike I did. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 February 2008): First off, realize that you do have options. My sister got pregnant while in high school (with the dad wanting nothing to do with his baby), and my parents were really upset with her. However, after my nephew arrived, they were very supportive and have always been there for her. Are you absolutely sure your parents wouldn't warm up to your child later?Also, if his parents are completely supportive, you could consider moving in with them. If you do move in, would the two of you continue living together if you fell out of love? Would you be welcome in their home till you're 18, till he's 18? Talk about this sort of stuff with his parents.You could also consider adoption. There are tons of couples out there who want to have children. If you do not feel you are prepared to begin raising a child, and it will be tough, look into it. Lastly, if the other options are unavailable, you could have an abortion. Regardless of your decision, make sure you talk it out with all parties, make a decision, sit on it a little, and move forward. Good luck and God bless
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 February 2008): ...Wow. He's 13? That's almost illegal, dear. Legally, youre parents can keep you away from him, but once your baby is born, they can't keep the father from seeing it, and his parents can fight for the custody of the child. It's a really complicated road. Talk to planned parenthood about it, and they can help. Google the website and find the nearest Planned Parenthood clinic near you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 February 2008): You are making a very mature decision, but you also have to think how his parents will act with you there full time. Are you r your boyfriend going to work to provide for this baby? Who is [aying for your bills, food etc. And is there space for you to live there? having a child is a very adult decision and you have to be aware of all the consequences. Remember that you are going to be raising a child, he or she will not be a baby for long. I wish you the best. I suggest that you try to improve the relationship with your parents because you may never know one day you might need them again. Plus, I'm sure that you want your child to have their other grandparents in the picture. Good luck:)
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