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writes: I've been seeing a guy for 4months now, all great, never been happier and all that. he has told a few white lies along the line but nothing major. we work in same building, same floor, different department. there was a work do the other week for 500 of us. we both went. he didn't speak to me much all night and was quite drunk. we were all due to get coaches home, I rang him. when they arrived he didn't answer his phone. I rang loads but no answer. I eventually got on a coach feeling upset. why was he ignoring me? the next day at work i didnt hear from him til 9am. he texted to say he had gone with some other members from work to a hotel where some of them were staying and carried on a free bar, he then got a taxi home and go home about 3-30am, he said someone had seen me walk out and that I walked straight past him and looked in a mood, so he went to the next do and carried on drinking. I said I was worried but he said nothing happened that I had to worry about. anyway someone this week has told my friend that they overheard someone saying he was seeing some other girl from work. he hasn't really had the time as we are together all the time and it may just be a rumour, but she was at this party and she also had a room at the hotel.he said he swears on his life he hasn.t been with her and that she has a boyfriend of 11 years but I dont know whether to believe him or not. my friends don't. he's been really nice since and has even booked us a holiday for valentine's day, but I just keep thinking has he?/hasn't he? no-one can prove it either way and I cant stop thinking about it. If it had been any other guy I would have not been bothered and probably just finished it but I actually feel like I've met the one I want to spend my life with for the first time ever, and I'm 27 and I just dont know what to do. He has told little lies before so I dont know how I know he is not lying now, I just don't know what to think.any advice would be great.
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Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A reader, R.C., writes (8 February 2005): This guy tells 'little white lies' and you can trust him to tell you the truth on this one? I would ask you to consider carefully the level of trust you have with this man if you want to spend your life with him. It may not seem obvious to you, because you evidently love him, but if you can't tell whether or not to trust him, then it's probably bad news. People have to earn your trust before you can give them the credit of it, and it doesn't look like this guy has done anything to deserve it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2005): a little trust goes a long way. I think you are being paranoid. Just 'cos he wasnt at your beck and call for a few hours dont mean he's off shagging some bint fer christsake. No-one is that lucky! Your friends are just jealous !
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