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writes: I've been seeing this guy for over 3 months now and before this we were good friends for two years. His divorce has only just come through although he has been seperated for a few years and he has one child. Everything has been great between us. we see around once a week mainly due to work commitments but he calls me almost every day. Ive always known he has issues with commitment and that is why i've been happy taking it slow. he says he wants us to see each other and be exclusive but he doesn't want a girlfriend at the moment! shall i end it if he can't commit and lose what we have now? I'm sure it would be the end of our friendship too.
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reader, Bev Conolly  +, writes (8 February 2005):
 Hi there,He's been honest and told you exactly where he's coming from: he doesn't want commitment or a girlfriend.Now it's your turn to be honest. Are you hanging around, waiting for him to change his mind, or will you be happy with what you have? Since he's already said that he doesn't want a girlfriend, you'll be disappointed if you expect things to change between you.My suggestion is that, if you don't see yourself as fully satisfied with exactly what you have now, you gently withdraw, explaining that you don't want to open yourself to hurt and resentment later.If that ends your friendship, so be it. If it's what you have, or nothing, and you don't like what you have... well, how much worse off would you be without him?Good luck with this.
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