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writes: He is very difficult to read. I am not the only one just saying that. He does smile though and he does laugh. So THAT’S normal. He was gone for a year and couldn’t contact anyone for that matter until early March. I don’t think I ever really had a crush before.I have ALWAYS been careful with people and I don’t know why. It’s weird though he talks to other people and is polite, nice and behavior is overall really good… however when I get into the picture of his or any group he doesn’t look at me once. To me he’s stiff-like while the others are relaxed and chatty. Plus he listens more than he speaks unless it’s just him and another person. Idk, maybe thats just him and is getting harder to read him overall.Personally, I have no idea what we have or what we are. There will be some days where when I see him he’s all bubbly and happy with his cheesy smile towards me. Other days he won’t even look at me...or he’ll look at me straight on, and then turn his head with no acknowledgment. Then out of the blue sometimes we have had five minute discussions face to face where he’ll make the effort to actually talk to me about just random stuff. Asks me questions and such and just talk. Then a few days later when I go to talk to him, he keeps it super short and to the point.It’s weird! I don’t know what actions I should do. However just a few days ago, he posted where me and him were the only ones that could see the post. He said“Not to be flirtatious,Just a compliment, the highlights look good and so does no glasses. :D”. However after that was AFTER I posted online on a Social Media that “Hey, guys I won’t be posting stuff until September, but have you know I am doing a lot better :D”Then he posted a few hour later“I’m glad you’re doing better! :D”So like I said, I have no idea.I have so heard he has a hard time expressing himself in any case. Heard that he’s not really like that and that he kind of waits for the girl to have a crush on him first...which is weird but very true. I got that from one of his close friends.I guess he flirted a bit with me BEFORE he was gone for nearly a year. He got into trouble and he came back in early March and since then we have had a few conversations lasting about 5 minutes...where as BEFORE we had like NONE. If we did they were really short or we had a few minutes of disagreeing on such. For instance we had a discussion on Gasoline and how he loves the smell of it and I’m like ew gross that’s disgusting and he’s like no it’s not...yeah it is...no it’s a pleasant smell. Then he lost me.His counseling lasted for like a year and like I said that he said he needs/wants to be careful of himself and doesn’t want to go back on his bad habits. All the so called flirting with me and such happened most of 2011. He got punished for whatever in April 2012 to Feb 2013. ALOT of people can tell a major difference with him. Cause he used to show off and I mentioned to what the girls said about him and he admitted in an email that he does like to show off and is trying to work on it.I didn’t convince him that I would never cheat on him. He was convincing me that he’s not like that and if he does do anything please let him know. Cause I told him a bit about my past and issues I had with people also in the past.I emailed his friend (call him Jack) early of June and somehow it was brought up that the guy (call him Shawn that I am talking about) likes this girl (lets call her Cassie) but has very little feelings for her (around early June 2013). That they themselves Cassie and Shawn...weren’t the ones that broke it off it was someone else. It might of been the parents, friend or a situation. Later in the month of June (even early July) it came up again somehow and Jack said Shawn doesn’t like Cassie anymore. He’s officially over her and how he made the statement he said then “last week”. So then I kinda joked around how he wow moves on from girls fast haha :P I was joking cause I knew he liked her for three months BEFORE he got into trouble and was gone for a year somewhere for a punishment.Jack also said he’s taking a break from girls for a while, but yet (Jack doesn’t know) Shawn treats me differently like I have explained above. I emailed Jack about if he likes me or not somewhere along the lines I guess and he said he's 100% sure he does NOT like you like that (to me) other wise Shawn would have told him. Personally, we all have secrets in my opinion. I don't think Shawn is much of a talker cause he told me himself he thinks Jack talks to much :P So if he DOES like me (which would be weird, but I would deal) it could just be secret crush in my opinion.Your thoughts?
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 August 2013): You have to accept the fact that he just isn't interested in you and he's just being friendly. You will have many crushes on boys, but they don't always exchange those feelings.
Boys will smile at you, have a little chat, and even might send you text messages. That doesn't mean they want you as a girlfriend. They simply like you and will only give you attention when they feel like it. That is what he is doing.
You are trying to force him to like you more than he does.
You keep looking for clues, a hint, or some evidence that he likes you more than he does. The reason you can't find it, is because it isn't there.
He got into trouble that kept him away for a year?
That means he isn't the kind of boy you should be around anyway.
It's been a very good thing that he isn't interested in you. You're heading down the wrong path chasing bad boys. That means at some point you'll get into trouble yourself.
You don't know when you should back off.
You really need to get out and have some fun. You've closed yourself off in some weird obsession over a loser, who hardly knows or cares that you exist.
To be a juvenile, and be put away for as long as a year; means he ain't all smiles and bubblegum, Missy! He's full of crap and stringing you along.
You seem to like acting out a soap opera. Chasing boys who like other girls, and don't pay you any attention. Don't be a drama queen. He likes this one, doesn't like that one, I like him, does he like me? Blah, blah, blah!
You're asking for advice. My advice is to forget about him.
Enjoy being a girl, and do things that are healthy and fun for your age.
How long are you going to be all tangled up in this nonsense?
Seriously!?
You're too caught up in things that hold you down. Go make some "new" friends, see other boys, and get on with your life.
Yes! He is playing games; because you make it so easy.
You go out and prove you don't need him, and don't have to take this stuff!
Be free, have fun!
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