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writes:K. So I don't know where to start . I'm 16 and she's 15 . We were going out for almost five months it was starting to get ... Irritating. We were both just being stupid and getting angry at each other. So we decided to take A little break.oh and her reason for the break is because she's been lying to me, nothing big but still lies, and she wanted to sort herself out so she doesn't hurt me any more. This is t the first problem with lies we've had either. I told her that I she wanted me back she had to ask me. Bu that I wasn't going to wait forever. During this break she was talking to some other guy. Yes I was jealous but it's not my place to say anything. A week or so into the break he starts telling me how they talk all the time. Like phone calls at night 3 hours long. She's not supposed to be on the phone after like 9. These calls are "supposedly" at 10pm-1am.she fell asleep on the phone with him once and we were still going out(that hurt and Im not sure why) .anyways he starts texting her more and they talk more. I was curious so I asked her if I could see her phone to see the texts from him. (yes I asked, is that controlling?)one ofthe texts was from him saying something like "well you've already established that you like me more." I asked her about it she said idk but he knows that people will see this. He's just trying to hurt you. Now I'm starting to ge curious cuz there stories don't match for certain things. They just keep talking and he always stays around her but the second I get there. He leaves. He tells me how he hates my guts because she "says" I treat her like shit and I've hit her. I have never hit a Girl in my life and I will kick so someones ass for doing so. One day she asks me back out and later I her from all my friends that he says he told her to ask me back out. . So were going out again. I go to er house one day to take her to school and I read a text that says"thanks for calling me back last night" I look and the call is deleted. It doesn't show a single call to him ever. All his calls are deleted. He tells me one other time that try still talk all the time and text.I told him that without proof I wouldn't believe him. So one night Im on he phone with her and she says" I need sleep I love you good night." Ok cool. Then from the other kid he tells me they talked again after we hung up. He showed me the proof. 10 minutes. I askedher and she lied about it. Sayin her mom took her phone the second we got off the phone so it wasn't her. What is her mom doing talking to a 15 years old boy for ten minutes. . . I'm so confused at this point I don't know who to believe. Recently she has being suddenly saying she has To go off the phone. And yesterday I sent a text saying good morning. She says "hey I love you we can't do anything more than make out anymore please dont ask". I was totaly ok with this but I was very confused where I came from. She says she has serious guilt trips everytime she goes to church. But it's been ok for the last 7 months?! Yes we get fairly sexual but not to sex. As far as I know they haven't been talking much and he still swears by he told her to ask me out. She thinks he's gross. Aparently. And any time I ask about him she got really defensive saying I shouldn't worry about it. Side note about this kid. Everyone tells me he manipulates and lies. And honestly lots of people say he's ugly as sin. Myself included. He has greasy hair and just ugh.lol. Ok so if you can tell me a thing about this. Ease xo anything will help I don't know what to do. Ask questions and I'll answer.asap. By the way. I'm on an iPod touch posting this so... If you don't understand anything or you notice lots of missing letters. It's the iPod. I'm pretty smart and a good speller just a baD typer on the touch screen. Please help .
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reader, jada101 +, writes (31 March 2010):
 I would just let her go.. She lie, calls the other boy, he sends her text saying thanks for calling her back ext just move one. There are other fish in the sea don't worry bout the spelling... im on my cell phone sidekick so I know how the typos are trust me sound like I can't spell for sh*t sometimes
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reader, c_keller +, writes (31 March 2010):
You seem to be a decent guy don't let her play you. You are young and have plenty of relationships ahead of you so I say don't waste any more of your time on her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 March 2010): If you were telling me this, as a stranger or as my friend I'd clearly tell you to your face that she's screwing you over. Yes he maybe manipulating her but she is going along with it and telling you lies and EVEN if some of this stuff were true that she was saying, there's way too much crap going on with her that can make me say "yeah u have a decent relationship".Maybe he's even making up all this stuff up but there are indeed call logs involved. Hmm she suddenly has to go...she get irritated a lot..I dunno dude even you know by now that something is fishy. You've either gotta find out just wtf is going on or dump her and move on. I'd say confront her and ask her to fess up...say all the stuff you've noticed whether you have proof or not. Try to get some answers out of her asap before she can dish out lies/excuses at you. But the thing that stops me from saying to confront her is that she is 15, and she can EMO-rage out on you, prolly in the same way she gets defensive when you confront her. When you think about it, sounds like you've got it all figured out...prolly just hurts to admit it yourself. I can't really say what you really should do coz I don't know ya but I do agree with you 100% with what you are feeling. Quite frankly if I ever heard my gf doing this with another guy like yours, I'd trip out. Best of luck to you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 March 2010): I know you dont know me what so ever, but TRUST ME on this, she is so not worth your time. Let her go. She lies, and thats just wrong. If shes lying now imagine how much worse they will get.
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reader, raiders +, writes (30 March 2010):
 She is lying to you and is getting caught in her lies what more proof do you need. You are in a break and can not expect her not to see anyone else. You are young just move on, she is probably keeping you just in case her new fling don't work out don't be anyone's second plate or sloppy seconds move on and find yourself a new girlfriend.
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