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writes:I feel like an idiot. I'm 16 years old and I'm dating someone who's 24. Though, when we met.. I lied about my age and said I was 20. She believes it too because I look and sound 20. We haven't been going out very long, a month at the most. But I just feel horrible having a relationship based off a lie. We both have very strong feelings for each other and now I'm afraid I'm going to hurt her.. But if I keep lying I'll probably hurt her even more.We've been best friends for a long time and are very close. We tell each other everything. I love her. A lot. It's a different feeling. She's extremely kind, she doesn't judge and she supports me. We've never gotten into an argument.I'm terrified of losing her but thinking about this lie just makes me cringe. I know I should tell her before it gets even more serious, because she wants to meet up with me and I can't pull that off.
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reader, dirtball  +, writes (23 July 2010):
 Ummm, sorry Gabrielle, but 24-16=8. Still, not a big deal when you're both legal. Until then, put a stop to this.
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reader, Gabrielle Stoker +, writes (23 July 2010):
 Tell her NOW. If you care for her, you don't want to see her in jail, I'm sure. Wait for a couple of years, if she's still interested, you can start seeing each other then. 6 years isn't such a huge age gap when you're a little older, but for now, you're deceiving her in a horrible way.
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reader, RAINORFIRE +, writes (22 July 2010):
 wow you havnt even met her... well a 24 yr old will not want to date a 16 yr old... why cant you pull it off you dont look 20.... well i would say not to tell let her figure it out your happy shes happy the buble will burst on its own eventually ride this horse till it does meet up with her stop being a punk if you love her and the ball will be in her court guess when she sees you...
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (22 July 2010):
 ?You've been best friends yet she doesn't even know your age? I beg the differ. You share everything with each other? When you are unable to share the most basic thing, how do you think anything else you share has any value? Tell her the truth immediately. At worst she could be reported by your parents since you are underage. This is not fair to her. And no, you can never have a real relationship based off of a lie. Break it off before more feelings get involved.
I am sorry, but this is the truth.. you should tell her the truth and break it off. That is, unless she is willing to overlook the age difference.
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reader, jp21 +, writes (22 July 2010):
 you should tell her that your 16 and your sorry you lied and your just a junior in high school, lol. if you have a student id card, show her that, so she knows that your serious and telling the truth. tell her you really like her as a friend, and more, but realisticly you cant see her without consequences. So your ending it, and you would still like to be friends with her if you haven't already runed that.
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reader, TimmD +, writes (22 July 2010):
 You need to tell her. You are right, the longer it goes the worse it will be. As much as you value your relationship and think it's strong... it's built on a lie. I'm not going to get into the legal aspect of things because that is another matter. From a relationship standpoint you must tell her. From there, you can let her decide if she still wants to see you or not. THEN we can debate about legality.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 July 2010): What do you mean 'she wants to meet up with me?'
Have you never actually met??
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reader, dirtball +, writes (22 July 2010):
Tell her, and get out of the relationship before you land her in jail. How would your parents feel about this relationship? When you tell her, she will likely be hurt. You are a child, and that's what she'll see if she's a normal adult.
You lost her the minute you lied about your age. Time for you to act like the man you claimed to be and confess the truth.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 July 2010): Mate you need to tell your lass because if she finds out she'll get even more annoyed. Start it off like, look I only did it because I like you so much, im 16. Sorry
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