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writes:Used a fake name and picture. At first it was just a fun account that my friend created and then I started to develop feelings for this guy. It went on for a few months and I finally had to come clean to him because I was falling in love with him and couldn’t hurt him any longer. The only reason it went on for so long is that I felt I was so deep into this lie that I couldn’t get out. The only way was to either break it off with him or tell him the truth and see how he felt. He wanted to know about the real me (and I told him), then we decided to finally meet and he said he thought I was really cute and sweet did have feelings for me (He also said he fell in love with the person he was talking too, not that persons pictures or life). I understand he’s angry about this and although at first he said he wanted to give us a chance a few days ago he told me he couldn’t go through with it because it hurt way too much. I love him and I miss him so much and can’t believe I did this to him. What should I do? should I respect his wishes (he said we should never talk to each other again and just try to move on with our lives but maybe someday we could be together?). Should I try to make contact? just one last time? what should I do. I can’t stop thinking about him, I want to be with him so bad. He’s the most incredible person I have ever met. He said he has feelings for the real me but the situation is really hard to deal with. I do not want negative comments but if anyone has dealt with a similar situation, how did you handle it? could you forgive the person? what should I do?the day after we first met he told me how excited he was for us to be together and he couldn’t for our first kiss, the first time we cuddle, etc. He always told me he missed me too. I’m just so confused. I know I hurt him and I don’t expect him to forgive me (I hope he does). I don’t want to be pushy or needy and I also told him that maybe we should take things slow and get to know eachother all over again but it seemed like he wanted to rush things. (We were suppose to go on a real date the other night and he decided to cancel and tell me he couldn’t do “this” anymore and was going to force himself into a relationship with me.. that really hurt to hear him say that). He also said he has been thinking about things for a few days but kept sending me cute messages everyday and saying I was cute and he missed me. I’m just so confused! I love him so much.do you think I should give him more space? it’s been almost a week? I’m so sorry and I told him I’d never lie to him again (I told him things about me that I’ve never told anyone, because I wanted him to know the real me), he said if we were going to work through this than I’d have to be completely honest with him, always. And I agreed to that and then a few days later he broke things off with me. Someone told me I should give him atleast a month before trying to make any contact with him but he lives pretty close and I know we’ll eventually run into eachother.well after he “broke things off”, and we said goodbye, I asked him if when he met me, if he had any feelings for the real me and he said he did and he thought I was beautiful and so sweet. It’s just so confusing, I know I really hurt him and would do anything to make this right.I really wish I never lied to this guy but at first he was just someone fun to talk too, I never expected to fall for him. For saying that he doesn’t think we should talk anymore.. he still hasn’t deleted him from facebook or messenger. Is this good or bad? I just want to send him a message to tell him he’s the most incredible person I have ever met and would do anything to fix what I have done, I never want to hurt him again. I just can’t give up and let go of him that easily. He’s also a few years older than me, do you think he’ll be able to forgive me?We talked a few days ago but it was a very "friend-like" conversation and he said he doesn't not ever want to not talk to me again (he wants to talk to me but maybe needs more time) and called me cute but I don't know
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reader, xanonomouz  +, writes (23 May 2010):
Awww im in the same situation :[ He hasnt officially rejected me yet though ( I guess thats him being a nice guy i dont know) I mean he SAID he wanted to keep contact and he did at FIRST but now he's onto ignoring me and I don't know what to think :[ its only been about 2 months since I told him so I guess I should give it some more time. It sucks though because you really have strong feelings for the guy and you don't know what his intentions are! So you go craaazy wondering if you're just hanging yourself by believing in false hope :/has anything changed with you're situation?? Its been a few months for you
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI really feel like this guy is worth waiting around for but then again I can't wait around forever. I would love nothing more but to rewind time and be honest with him from the start, then again.. who knows if he'd ever give me the time of day then? but he's really genuine and so caring and nice with everyone. I've never met anyone like him and it hurts to let this slip away because there's nothing I can do but wait it out.
I want to write him a long letter about everything .. it's not like I could embarrass myself anymore right? but I think I'll hold off for another month or two and see how things play out. I've tried to explain everything but I feel like I have a lot more to say but I don't want to be pushy with him either. I just miss him so much.
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reader, gcruz +, writes (18 February 2010):
 awwww i have a similar situation going on now but he still hasn't met up with me "yet" but it would be confusing if he tells you all these things after u meet him and out of no where just says all this stuff.... i hate to say this but just wait on him and see what happens...but dont hold your breath my dear
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (17 February 2010):
Well he hasn't cut contact, and he did say that he didn't just want to cut contact. I would suggest that you wait for him to contact you. If he does, take things slow and continue to reassure him. If he doesn't get into contact, then you need to let him go.
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