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writes:I'm close friends with a girl, and for quite a while now, I've been telling her that I love her. At first, it started as a joke between us, along with the many compliments I was giving her. In the end, we were both at it, telling each other that we loved them. But the problem is, I think that for a while now, I've actually meant it. Yet when I say it to her, she's still seeing it as a joke. She never accepts my compliments as serious either - just another part of our jokey relationship. But now, I want a relationship with her, and I don't know how to make that clear to her without her thinking it's a joke. Reply to this Question
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reader, Oregongrl1  +, writes (12 August 2010):
Just tell her the same thing you just told us! or just let her read your reply. i think she'll get it then. and 2 maybe shes just shy?
Good Luck!
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reader, Moo's Mum  +, writes (12 August 2010):
 Take her out just you and her and give her a piece of jewellery. Doesn't have to be over the top expensive any little token will do. Accompany the jewellery with a card saying our love started as a joke but for me it's no joke anymore. I love you from the bottom of my heart please accept this Name of jewellery as a promise Name of jewellery I want you to be my girlfriend.
Good luck hope you get her :-)
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reader, Duckyhelp +, writes (12 August 2010):
 Tell her its not a joke. Say to her that you want to speak seriously and tell how what you just said, that before it was a joke, but now you really mean it. Chances are she will feel the same, usualy these jokey things are true anyway after a while, thats how me and my boyfriend started out! Good luck! Tell me how it went :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 August 2010): Oh, that is a beautiful story... and the fact that you have such a great friendship is a wonderful basis for your relationship.
I think it is quite likely that she could feel the same way. I mean why would it be fun unless there was some truth underneath it... I mean it was a safe way to say how you really feel.
What would I do? I would wait for an intimate moment when no one else was around and I would say it... then I would look into her eyes and say..."really.. I mean it. I know it started as a joke, but I absolutely mean it."
Watch her response. She may need time to explore her feelings, whatever she does says stay cool and don't freak out and say you'r just joking! Maybe try to gently touch her on the hand and if she seems to like it, try to hold hands with her. If she likes that, maybe try to touch her cheek gently, kiss her lightly on the forehead. Show her how gently you can be.... and never lose that sense of fun that drew you two together.
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