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writes:My Ex, who i had been with for 7 years made me pregnant and disappeared without a word. However, he disappeared with the house rent which i had given him to pay and after a while he emailed me.... i will not hear from him or will rarely hear from him.I looked after my self during pregnancy and produced a health baby girl. By the time i gave birth, i did not have a job but did contractual opportunities for my daughter and i to survive.When she was one year old, i heard he was in the country and had met a number of my friends, lying them that he was working hard for me and my daughter. When he was invited for my daughter's first anniversary, he promised to come and he never turned up. He apologized through face book that he had a number of engagements and that he regretted.When she made two and three, he did the same of not turning up for the events. However, getting even a coin for my daughter from him was a tug of war and he stood up the two of us on several occasions.However, this was the kind of person i stood with in thick and thin but he paid us(my daughter and i) negatively.He got a woman who had come in the country to volunteer and they had all sorts of fun including posting on social media. I did not interrupt a thing .After series of years in contractual jobs, i got a big managerial job which am doing to date which covers medical expenses for my Daughter and i. We did all we had to forget about this man and because of the many things he put us through.Beginning of this year, he texted me that he wanted us to meet, have a cup of coffee and talk! i did not respond to the message because am too busy to even spend time with that man.in the middle of the year, he continued asking me to fix time in my very busy schedule and we talk, however, i politely told him off with..... i will let him know.These days, he has started posting photoes of the same woman on social media, having drinks, hugging, sleeping and have decided not to introduce my four year girl to him.Am actually confused as why he wants to meet me when he has a lady aside( though she's in and out of the country since she aint a citizen)! secondly, is he worth meeting? and men out there, please help tell me what such an individual would want us to meet, yet i did not step in his way as he left?
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 August 2014): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you friends, am glad about the responses
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reader, Dionee'  +, writes (6 August 2014):
 You should delete him off all social media that you currently have him on and you should move on with your life. You shouldn't let a man like this interfere with the life that you have managed to build for your daughter and yourself. You must realize that he will bring no good with him and you don't need that in your life especially since you worked hard to look after the child that he left you to raise alone. He isn't good news and he will bring nothing good into your life. However, I'm not here to make your decisions for you, I'm here to offer my advice and opinion. What it is that you want to do is still for you to decide but consider all the advice that you've been given when making your decision as to whether you will let him back into your life or not. Good luck.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (6 August 2014):
 Why even have him on your social media? Why not block him? Why not save yourself the emotional turmoil of watching him post all his "happy life" pictures while you worked your behind off to make a life for you and your child?
Honestly, I wouldn't drag it out, I'd tell him STRAIGHT up - I don't want to see you. You are nothing to me and NOTHING to my daughter.
But this is up to you. DO you really want to invite him back in your life? After he stole your heart and your money and left you high and dry and pregnant?
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