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writes:So, I've been in a LDR for a while now. I love the guy to pieces, really, I do. But, he and I talk on the phone almost everyday, and he always says, "I would never cheat on you." I'm starting to not believe that. He told me that his ex girlfriend is obsessed with him, and is trying to break us up. Apparantly, all his friends are trying to break us up. They may get their wish.Recently, my boyfriend hasn't responded to my texts. And when we're on the phone he gets alot of text messages. And he and I are pretty "ok" in our relationship right now, but I've been having to put up with his mood swings more often than ever.So, just a few moments ago I decided to go onto his profile page and see his new pictures. I found a message from a girl that said, "I love you, John. This is my babycakes. I'll love you always and forever." So, naturally, I was a little jealous. So I checked out her profile. I was put into tears as soon as I saw it. She had him on the top of her friend list, she put "Loving my John" as her occupation, and had a picture of her holding a sign saying "Love you John. Forever." with hearts and lipstick stains on there. He actually only commented on the picture as, "Nice." I know she's not his ex. If she was trying to break us up, you'd think he wouldn't comment on the photo, basically encouraging it.I'm torn. I thought he'd actually be the boyfriend I'd keep. So, do you think he's cheating? It's pretty obvious to me. I want to confront him but I don't know what to say. Any ideas?
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 August 2010): It sounds pretty obvious to me, too, and I think you absolutely should confront him. Just start by saying you noticed that a girl's profile was all about how much she loved him, and that he had commented on it, encouraging it. Tell him how it made you feel, and ask him what's going on.
If he denies that anything is going on with her, you have to decide if you believe it. It seems undeniable, though.
In the end, it's up to you if you want to keep him around, knowing that he's seemingly capable of cheating on you. If he felt like it was OK to do it once, he'll probably feel like it's OK to do it again.
Best of luck to you. Take a deep breath. You can handle this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 August 2010): dump his sorry ass. i know it will hurt and it might not be what you really want but it will be better in the long run. let him be with crazy pyscho-obsessed girl.
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