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writes:Hi,My boyfriend and I studied In the same university for 5 years but we dint know each other until the last month and when we got to know each other there was no stopping to us,but it was the end of semester and my boyfriend had to go back to his city which means an LDR I thought I could pull it off but its just getting harder its 6 months now and I can't do it anymore,I'm working but he's going to start work only in april next year all I want from him is to come back to my city(the city where he studied) and work here till he knows what to do in my life..am I being demanding?am I wrong?
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reader, Sageoldguy1465  +, writes (17 October 2013):
 You're not "wrong".... but it IS unrealistic to believe that he should make such an extreme step only for your preferences..... Be patient... OR, decide that you and he need to "cool it" until that fateful day, next April, when you and he can make your (mutual) decision with all the data on the table...
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (17 October 2013):
 Where is he starting to work in April ? In the city where you live ? If it is so, hold your horses and cultivate patience. It's only 5 and 1/2 months from now ! It's surely more reasonable and sensible that you just suck it up for a few months, rather than making him uprott himself temporarily- and then going somewhere else again in a short while - for the sake of a recent relationship, which he does not know yet what weight will actually have in his life and how it will pan out.
If instead you mean that in April he is starting working there where he is now, or in some other place- ah well. At some point you'll have to decide something, no LDR can stay LDR for ever- you'll have to decide who's gotta move where to be together. But that can wait a few more months, surely.
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