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writes:After a relationship with a jerk I got this amazing bf.He is everything I wanted him to be.Unfortunately we are in 'your sunset my sunrise' far away places.Earlier it was fine but now with 6 months of LDR and things are getting ugly.We didn't have any major fights until lately.Suddenly I have become insecure and pulling out it on him.We have decided that I will give GMAT and come to him for studies so that we can be together.I am trying my best to study but with office and all its quite hectic on me and when he behave like this I feel I am giving too much and get irritated.And to top it he acts weird at the topic of Marriage.I mean if I don't get a student visa then I have a way of dependent visa but he has made me believe If I come on a dependent visa it would be an insult to my personality.I feel sometimes he is manipulating..sometimes he is a genuine lover.He gets sad at the mention of break up.What do I do..Is this just my insecurity??
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (18 November 2012):
 It's still not enough time , if you only have been dating 6 months, part of which long distance. It's normal that everything feel fantastic at the beginning of a new relationship. It does not mean that it can 't STAY fantastic, maybe even forever- but it's too early for getting married - and you don't even know yet how would you feel about settling in his country . What's wrong with a student visa anyway ?
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reader, CindyCares +, writes (18 November 2012):
No, he is not acting weird, he is acting normal and prudent. He does not even know you basically, you just have been corresponding for the last 6 months , and writing to each other may very easily be all different from LIVING with each other. It is crazy to get married after 6 months even IRL, imagine with an LDR. ( That's what you mean with dependent visa, right ? ).
Get your student visa and see what happens, and don't have too many expectations, what you are feeling now may be intense and strong and pleasant, but still has to be tested against everyday reality - from both sides.
OF COURSE, get a student visa only if his country offers good schools and good opportunities for building your future, and if you'd go study abroad regardless, single or not. In other words, think of yourself first and of your future career, and only proceed if this move makes sense in the general scheme of what you want for yourself.
THEN, if it happens that you also get along with the foreign guy and you have a happy relationship, well, this will be an added bonus and a wonderful gift from the Universe.
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reader, cracked +, writes (18 November 2012):
cracked is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWe are from the same country and had an amazing relationship all the time we were together before we had to move to separate countries for work.
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reader, cracked +, writes (18 November 2012):
cracked is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWe are from the same country and had an amazing relationship all the time we were together before we had to move to separate countries for work.
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reader, girlinlovex  +, writes (18 November 2012):
Just a few questions to ask just to understand your post more.
What country is he from?
How long have you been dating?
Have you ever met one another?
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