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writes:I'll try and make this short. I was in a long distance relationship for 3 years. We met here in my town, but she moved away before things got emotional.We e mailed and text constantly, and talked occasionally. I could not get her to commit to moving to where I am, yet she kept telling me that she would. "I just have to get some things in order" she kept telling me.Deep inside, I had a feeling it wouldn't happen, but I was/am deeply in love with her! In the final months, I was feeling better about the relationship than I ever had. I actually thought she was coming around. One Friday night she called me, our call was disconnected and I called her right back, Some guy answered the phone,he and I went at it! The next day, she called me continuously, denying the whole relationship. I knew that he was listening in, and she was saying these things for his benefit and to save her own ass.On one hand, I was devastated, yet on the other, it didn't surprise me.Truthfully, I almost laughed at her for being so ridiculous. She had one of her friends call me to say that she'd call in a couple days and explain. Meanwhile, I pried the story from her friend, and never got any closure from her.I had given her numerous opportunities to end our relationship. She wouldn't. I actually ended it once, but then she cried and everything, I didn't want it to be over, so it wasn't.That's been nearly a year ago, I still think of her constantly. I wake up in the night with her on my mind. There are days when it's like she is right there beside me. I still love her, and for some stupid reason, I still feel that I will hear from her again.Anybody else ever go through something like this?Am I only fooling myself?How the hell do I get over her?I've dated and stuff, but it's just not her.Please help!
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reader, Rumplestiltskin +, writes (26 January 2009):
Hello. You sound like a great guy. You talk about love, and you seem to have a natural intuition when it comes to this relationship and the way it was headed.However, I do think you need to get over her. And I think you know that if you could get over her, you would.What makes getting over her hard is the lack of closure. She never said, "Get lost, loser," or "I've found someone else, please leave me alone."Instead, she left you hanging in the dark, and now even a year later you are still thinking about her.Here are the top three things that help most guys.Number ONE: Talk to people you love about your situation. Talk to your family (mom and dad) or your best friend. Sharing your feelings with someone close is great therapy. Even talking about your feelings on this website will help relieve some of your tension.Do not share this situation with casual acquaintances such as people you meet at the bar or gym.Number TWO: Exercise, eat right and get enough sleep. You don't even have to join the local gym. Just get out there and start running. Buy healthy foods - salad instead of french fries.Number THREE: Keep dating, but don't date excessively. It sounds like you are doing this already. You may have not met Miss Right yet, but the universe will present her to you when you are both ready.Just some of my thoughts for now. Best of luck, and never give up.
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