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female
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36-40,
*iara Jena
writes:I’m really confused regarding this guy with whom I’ve been in a long-distance relationship for more than four months now. The problem is that he seems to be really distant these days. We hardly talk the way we used to. Well, he told me that he’s not worth me, and that I’m too good for him. He seems to really lack self-confidence. Uhh, and a few days back he told me that we better stay good friends, and I told him no. After that we didn’t talk for like a few hours. I thought it was all over. But then, he talked to be the next day and told me that he doesn’t want to hurt me and that I’m far too precious for him!! And acted so coolly, as if nothing is wrong. My question is, is he playing games with me??? Should I continue with this relationship??All this is a real mental torture. He’s like a person today, and another one the next day!! His inconsistent behavior is really bugging me, and I don’t know how to deal with all that. And, by the way, he’d a dreadful experience in his past relationship with his ex-girlfriend, with whom he was for more than five years.
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reader, tennisstar88  +, writes (13 April 2011):
 It sounds like he's trying to find a nice way to dump you.
He's already messed up the number one key into making a LDR work and that's communication. Once the communication fails consider the LDR soon to be if not already over.
What you need to do is attempt to have a serious talk with him, preferably in person, but if that won't work for you then the phone will do. Ask him what is going on with him, give him a chance to explain why he is messing with your mind. If it's a break up he wants, then let him have it. There's no sense in trying to make this LDR work when he wants out of it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2011): What he's said is not a good sign of things to come. Don't get fooled by the pity me words because what he is preparing you for is what a jerk he's going to be. He doesn't want an LDR and wants to play the field but he still wants you to give him attention when he wants it and that's why he's saying all those things.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2011): You're young. As another female around your age. I don't feel like long distance relationship are worth it. Concentrate on yourself (career, friends, etc.) and find someone better.
At the very least, he'll come back to you if he truly likes you and he'll take you more seriously.
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