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writes:okay, I'll try to make this as simple as possibleI've been in a relationship with M for just over a year now but it really isn't a relationship everyone has. it's a long distance one where half a globe between us but even then, we have been working around that.now, what I came here for... lately I have been thinking a lot about how I feel for her and I can't figure out if I'm truly in love with her yet. I mean, I absolutely can't wait for us to talk each time. I'm easily willing to wait all night long if it meant I would talk to her. just seeing her face makes me happy, and talking to her is the thing I look forward the most each day and is what makes me happy the most.how can I figure out my own feelings here?PS: please, if you're going to say stuff like "you're wasting your time in a LDR" refrain from posting.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 August 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for the help Karlos.
I'll definitely talk to her about it all tonight.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 August 2012): I think what your relationship needs is solid, realistic plans of taking things to the next level. It will give you both something to feel enthusiastic and optimistic about in the relationship.
If this is both what you truly want.
If the relationship never goes anywhere, things will fizzle out completely eventually.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 August 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI do intend to visit her as soon as possible, but we both have stuff that get in the way of doing so.
also, we've talked about it, but only briefly a couple of times since we know it's hard to meet up.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 August 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI do intend to visit her as soon as possible, but we both have stuff that get in the way of doing so.
also, we've talked about it, but only briefly a couple of times since we know it's hard to meet up.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 August 2012): You may love her and want to be with her and all the rest of it, but maybe the reality of the distance is giving you doubts.
How likely is it that the two of you will meet in person? Or have you even spoke about the subject together?
I'm not going to tell you you're wasting your time, because I've had a couple of long distance relationship and sometimes they are better (to a degree I've found personally).
But you have to be realistic about the situation, at some point you will have to meet up with her and take all the necessary steps to prepare for a long haul visit to see her, and sometimes the thought of it can put a downer on your perspective of things.
I wouldn't doubt the relationship or your feelings just yet, until you've had a good talk with her and find out her perspective on the relationship.
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