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writes:I have been dating this girl for around 2 months now, and lately she has been acting like she is mad at me. For the first few weeks everything was fine, we got along, we kissed, we cuddled, that sort of stuff. For about 2 weeks now she has been acting like she is mad at me, and she will not tell me why. I just want 2 know what 2 do... I mean, I love her to death, but I'm begining to think that she doesn't love me.... What should I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 November 2009): I agree, blow her off. You need to show the girl you won't tolerate the bad behavior or she will keep using it again and again and it will never end. Just cut contact until she comes around.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (14 November 2009):
 could be one of two thingsshe is seeing how far she can push you with her bad behaviour before you call a haltorshe is acting the way she is to try and force you into breaking up with youYou need to work out which of the two it is, so presume for now she is wanting to see how far she can go with her bad behaviour and call a halt to itif she is just pushing you, she will pull up, if she is wanting you to break up with her the bad behaviour will continue, and then you can decide what to do from there
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reader, grubbyduckling  +, writes (14 November 2009):
Well, in my opinion, if you think that something is really bothering her and you've talked to her about it and she denies it, then you can't really force her into communicating with you.If you've been direct with her and said something to the effect of: "You seem like something is bothering you, and I can't fix it unless I know what it is. So what's up?" and even that doesn't get the ball rolling, then I would suggest that you work with what you have.Instead of wondering about what could potentially be wrong (that train can go on forever in many cases) start dealing with how the situation makes you feel. You can really only take responsibility for your own feelings, and if you let her know how you feel at the thought that she's upset with you, that might also open up the lines of communication.Healthy relationships are about good communication, and if you two don't feel comfortable communicating with each other, then things aren't going to improve in the long run.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2009): You come off as though you are the type of person who gets emotionally close to someone you really, really like. I would think the feelings you think you have for her just might be lust, a strong liking, a crush or even infatuation. Look---don't allow this girl to get you all bent out of shape emotionally simply because, she is going around pretending to be mad at you---come on now--what logical and sane person goes around being mad or angry at a person without reason? It doesn't make sense does it? NO!! So stop running after her, asking her questions---act like you don't care. Stop talking to her, distance yourself from her, stop being so "nice" to her because, as we all know "nice guys (and girls) finish last. You are young---go on with your life. It's only been two months and I don't doubt you really like her, but please...don't waste time on someone like this. Maybe she just isn't that into you, so she is using the decades old "pretending to be angry" to distract you from what her REAL intentions are. At any rate, just keep it moving - you will do better off by not contacting her even if she contacts you. Sorry...but it doesn't seem as though she is into you the way you are into her.
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