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writes: Hello, I'm 24 my partner is 26. We have a 2 year old. We havent made contact with each other for 3 weeks. We usually kiss and cuddle every night and have sex about twice a week, but my partner says he's too tired. Sometimes it's just a cuddle I want but when I ask it ends up in an argument, so I go bed at different times, usually an hour later than him. I have accused him of sleeping with someone else but he swears it's because hes tired. I'm thinking of looking elsewhere. Reply to this Question
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reader, pops +, writes (17 June 2005):
Is your partner gaining weight lately? Is he exercising enough? If he's gained weight, or has reduced his activity, he may be very tired when he gets home. Ask him to take a nap when he gets home, so that you can wake him up for dinner later. Even a half hour nap is often all that is needed to give a man his second wind. Do you give him a massage when he is tired? Do you prepare a bath, or his shower for him, and then climb in with him? Sometimes a change in the routine, and where you make love can help. Do you engage in foreplay with him? Do you consider waking him in the morning early, and fucking his brains out then? He can't complain about being too tire then, and he may just have an erection already waiting for you. Wake yourself early, do whatever you need to do to get yourself excited, and then pull the sheets off him and administer to him orally. When he's sufficiently erect, awake or not, climb aboard. If he expresses surprise, tell him you are serious about getting the amount of love making that you need from him, even if you have to do it yourself. Then, later, have a long talk to him about your relationship. Ask him what he likes, dislikes, what he likes that you do to him, what he doesn't like, what he wishes to try but hasn't had the courage to ask you, and what he wishes you would do to him that he has been afraid to ask for. Get the cobwebs out of your relationship. Fire it up with sexual suggestions to each other. Instead of going from twice a week to none, you should be going from twice a week to 20 times a week. When I was 43, I made love to my second wife for the first time. I had five orgasms over the course of the night and next morning, while she had more than 100. She slept for a day and a half afterwards. She was only 28. I didn't, and don't consider myself a sexual athlete. However, I wanted that first time to be very special for both of us, and paced myself. Later, we found that gatorade helped give me the strength to keep up with her. when we traveled, and stopped for gas, she would go into the station with me, and when she spotted the gatorade, she would point it out to me, and ask me if she should buy me a bottle? We usually did, whether I really needed it or not! God, how I loved that woman. Pops
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