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writes:Hello people. Probably this is just another story for you guys, but I really need some second opinions so here it goes. I've been with this guy for more than 3 years, we went through a lot of things, good and bad, he met my parents and I met his, everything peachy so far, but lately things are not going very well, he started flirting with a lot of girls, he says it's just fun, acknowledging his manhood or smth. I proposed to break up because I can't be with a man who doesn't tell me the truth and doesn't appreciate me. The problem is that it's not the first time when I do this and he always comes back to me begging me to forgive him. He says he doesn't cheat but I don't know what to believe. I don't trust him anymore. He says flirting is just for fun, he's a man and men do that, I think it's crap. What do you guys think? The problem is that I still love him and it's very hard for me to break up as he knows how to turn things round. Please help. Thanks!
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reader, djmanny64 +, writes (21 July 2009):
I have sort of the same problem, I don't have trust in my partner because she goes out and tells me that she is with loads men having drink and that. I used to have trust in her but now she is trying to play mind games with my head and that's what some people are like in a relationship. Best thing I can recommend is that don't play the same game that he is playing and stick to your guns. I've got attached to my partner and that is one thing I regret. Don't get attached to him because in the long run he may cheat on you and give you grief and pain along the way. But it is your choice on what you do either stay with him and tell him how you feel. If he don't take a blind bit of notice about your feelings and carries on then best thing is to end it.Message me if you need help more Steve
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 July 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you a lot for your advice. A balanced outside view was all I needed to make sure I am not exagerating things.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 July 2009): Dont answer the phone,texts or email and completely ignore him for the rest of your life! its hard but try.set yourself a goal to ignore him for a week...then two weeks...then a month and so on and on and reward yourself with a little treat at first when you do it after the first week like a new top then when it comes to a month a new jacket or game.whatever takes your fancy.i wouldnt trust this guy is basically what im trying to say and just dump him.
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reader, GrimmReality  +, writes (19 July 2009):
 He's so full of shit his teeth are floating. He is looking for hookups outside of his relationship. He says ALL men do it? Not men in committed relationships. He isnt doing a very good job of "turning things areound" with these lame dicked excuses.
Go find someone who will respect you. If you continue to stay with him, he will eventually cross the line between flirting and cheating on you, if he already has not. He is laying the groundwork for you, and may actually be doing yopu a favor by showing his true colors.
Throw him away like a used rubber. You deserve better.
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