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writes:I met a girl last week who i thought i liked, but i dont think she likes me and i dont think shes my type. Last week i was acting very confident and trying to make them laugh and all that but today many of the ppl I met last week seemed not interested in talking to me, and even made some very not normal comments. Eg they asked where i stayed and i said location A and they were like thats far and i was like yeah it is. i continued the conversation by saying i have a friend in my course who stays in location B which is even further, and one of them said y are u telling me this its not like we noe where any of these places are or anyone in my course and only tell me if the person is hot.i was like ????Another one was when i helped them pack up for an event and brought it back to their place. One girl asked another if they wanted to go out again for the evening and i had my back faced to them. When i turned around she was sort of saying no, like as if she didnt want me to go along with them. Then a third girl made up some excuse to say they were planning on doing something, which i noe wasnt true.Because i tried to flirt with one of the girls earlier last week im not sure wat sort of first impression i might have given off, but i have also recently found out thru someone else that the ppl i were with are very good at gossiping about others (and each other even!!!) and im under the impression based on tonights behaviour from the group in general towards me, that they couldnt care less about me as a friend, prob because that one girl spread a rumour about me and all of them know something that i dont. Do you think this is possible? It seems very clear to me that they werent as chattable and likeable as they were last week. Wat could possibly be the reason that alot of the ppl i met last week couldnt really be bothered talking to me? I mean there were of course some which did and i found them much more genuine, but this girl's group of friends clearly seemed to act very differently.Any thoughts?
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reader, Odds  +, writes (11 March 2011):
 They may simply not care to meet new people right now. You were fun last week, and they enjoyed the fun, but that did not mean they were open to making new friends. It doesn't have anything to do with you.
Their comments and conversation later on sound like general banter to me, the kind you have with acquaintances. Nothing to worry about, just continue to be confident and funny.
In general, it's easier to scale back from coming on too strong than it is to move forward from failing to make an impression. Better a bad first impression than none at all. This includes flirting or being subject to rumors - in particular, girls gossiping is normal and nothing to concern yourself with. I don't see any reason to modify your behavior just yet.
If you continue to see them on a semi-regular basis, they may warm up to you, but don't be disappointed if it doesn't happen. Just pick a couple of decent-seeming ones and try to see them in smaller groups, or one-on-one.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 March 2011): ok, calm down, dont worry, stop flirting simple, girls hate it when boys try showing off because we can tell.
im not saying that your showing off or anything i see your trying to make them like you, but they probably think your coming off too strong.
just relax, they have only just met you so they dont properly know you, so that would explain the wierd comments etc.
jst give them space and dont over flit , compliment them thats a way to a girls heart, dont be cocky! :) hope this helped 3 x
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