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writes: he is my love, my life, my everything...he is in a financial bind that has changed him...a lot! i miss my old 'J'. when he had money we were always going out and we were always happy it seemed like...and now that he has spent it all, he is struggling and now it being the holidays he is always depressed because he doesn't even have enough gas money to come and see me. more the less get me something for Christmas. i have told him that presents mean nothing to me and that i just want him and his love and then i will have everything, and it still helps nothing....the way he treats me has even changed...what should i do? he has a short temper, he doesn't love on me as much, he says things that i know he doesn't mean, and lately it seems as though he doesn't enjoy my company...he doesnt hardly call me anymore, and lately it seems as though every time i try to get him on his cell, he doesn't answer. i just don't know what to do. i love him and i want it to work, but i can't get over the feeling that he might not want me anymore... please help me...i am desperate.Why has he changed just because he has no money?...i just don't get it...!
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reader, guylostinlove +, writes (16 December 2006):
Money's trouble for everyone. Whether we have it or we don't.
Hopefully, he has the sense to come out of it with his head intact. I went through a lot of financial trouble a few years ago. Wanted to give it up. But, thinking things through, I worked myself hard the last 3-4 years (two jobs) and cleared the hurdle. And the sense I got out of it is that ... money is money .. it can always be earned back again. So, I have a little bit less now than I did before. But, that doesn't matter because I'm still here and have the ability to earn more.
Don't leave him alone ... get him out of the house ... give him a sense of accomplishment. And, if he's lost his ambitions, you have to help him get that back. Without ambition, we go nowhere in life. Especially at this point in his life. Keep him busy, idle minds are no good.
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