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writes:When I like girl and she plays me for an ego boost I really don't want to talk to her ever again. It's happened before and I simply don't care. In one case it's been 3 years and she still randomly emails me out of the blue in the face of my dead silence. With the most recent girl she's all sad on campus when I don't want to talk to her."Let's be friends" Are you kidding me? So we can have friendly chats about the guy you're dating now? So you can keep me on the shelf and keep telling me how crazy you are about me and how you need time and are scared I won't stick around to wait for you.What is it with this "let's still be friends" line? It's either there or it isn't. I have enough friends and I certainly don't need the anguish of talking about the intimate details of your life when I'm not sharing it with you. A simple hello and platonic "how you been" in the streets, if we run into each other, will do just fine. Don't waste my time, I've got my life to live. Reply to this Question
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reader, freebird  +, writes (9 April 2009):
 I totally agree with you. I am currently going thru that kind of crap. My boyfriend ditched me and went for an arranged marriage and he wants to remain friends. I feel that its just to conceal their guilt and to keep you on the shelf as you say. Just move on!!
I guess men also do it a lot. and you can take it as a sign of being ditched.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2009): I totally agree with you!! It's a way of keeping someone on the sidelines, while they check out thier other options!
Relationships are difficult. It's hard enough getting over someone without them being there, but not totally available!
It is wise to just move on!
Good Luck!
Britt
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2009): Thats exactly what they are doing and it's wrong to do it. But the smart thing for you to do is say that to their face, not blow it off. Other wise you get pent up anger. Also women tend to respond to that "I'm not putting up with your crap thing" really well.. we can respect a man who will stand up to us and not let us get away with anything. Its called alfa male traits and you seem to be devolping them just fine.
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