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writes:http://www.dearcupid.org/question/my-boyfriend-masturbated-on-webcam-to-my-friend.htmlback in august i found out what my boyfriend really got up to whilest i wasnt there! ^ read theres the question i asked bath then, and i know i should have dumped him there and then! im an idiot and i am not looking for sympathy because i know i let love take over me! but its now april, almost 8 months after and hes still around! well basicly, on december 23rd, he finished me, told me he didnt want to be with me and he no longer found me atractive and told me he thought id got fat! so he didnt want to go out with me anymore, this absolutly gutted me! i was heartbroken, my best friend helped cheer me up, she took me into town and i ended up having a one night stand like a bigger idiot! anyway, on new years eve at a party he was there, we both ended up drunk and slept together and he told me he was sorry about everything and he was still in love with me, like a fucking stupid idiot!!! i took him back, but the at the party his friend told me that he'd only finished with me because he didnt want to buy me a christmas present, which at first i thought was stupid! it hadnt bothered him for the past 2 christmases, birthdays, valentines... why this one? but anyway it was true.! he admitted it, but loved me apparently! on valentines daay he was out with his friends, and arranged to sleep at mine on valentines night. i bought some new underwear for him which i felt really good in.. i cooked for him. it took me 6 hours, 3 attemps and £20 in flamin gas! i cant cook to save my life. but i did it, and was really chufft lol. but then i got a phone call at half 7 (half an hour before he should of been at mine) from his friend saying that he wasnt coming, he was spending the night with some girl. i was GUTTED! he'd cheated on me, on valentines! my parents arranged to spend the night away for me, i sat in my new underwear, looking in the mirror and i felt like SHIT! i am fat, i am ugly! i told myself over and over again. everything id done was up the spout! i phoned my best friend AGAIN! and she came round straight away and cheered me up best she could. 'im never going back to the w**ker again!' i told her, but i loved him! it was untrue, nothing made sense or even mattered at the time, but then AGAIN!!.. i was stupid. (in november, i misscarried a baby, we were both truley distroart about it, but im not going into that.) but then he used it, he started goin on about 'what if'.. if the baby had lived, how our life would be.. told me he was desperate for a baby, we both sat and had a cry and once again! he'd got what he wanted out of me, we slept together! this was on 24 feb, well everything was going okay so i thought! until last night. i was at his, we'd been to the cinema and had a good time! and then we went shopping, i tried on a top in the shop and the size 12 wouldnt fit me, well it did.. but not properly, and he said to me 'er, get a bigger size you fat twat' i shouted accross the changing rooms 'im not a fat twat when your using me for sex am i?!!' and i walked out of the shop, i text him and i said 'sorry. infact, im not sorry. we're over ****** i dont want to be used. even i know i can do better than you, come round for your stuff as soon as, its on the driveway' and that was it, i went home and i put everything i had of his and everything he had given me into a bin liner and i put it in the garden, its still there now! he keeps texting me and phoning me, saying sorry and saying he loves me! but its a load of crap, i know that now, im not an idiot anymore, i dont even love him! ive grown to hate him, he wont stop ringing me, my best friend is on holiday until saturday and i dunno what to do! hes driving me insane, i cant stop crying over him! what can i do to take my mind off of him?! or to stop him trying to contact me, please can someone help?! hes wrecked me, why am i so dumb?!!!!!! thanks for reading, sorry its mega long, i just dont know what to do anymore!! thanks again xxxxxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2009): I have been there and it seems we are sucker for punishment. I decided to spend more time with my friends and date someone else. With time I found someone that loves and appreciates me. Read books, listen to music to avoid thinking of him, pray for guidance. When you are tempted to phone call a friend, write about what a bad person he is.I must add I kept (used) him as a friend - that is I called him as a friend just on the odd occassion but sometimes felt worst and in the end I did not feel like calling him any more. The reason I chose to keep soem contactcoz I did want to miss him and go back to him out of desperation.
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reader, Mariela  +, writes (9 April 2009):
 Well it does sound like that guys is just and idiot and loser no girl deserves to be called fat or anythings....Honney can you no see he is using you just for sex like you said....You dont need him and the best way to get him off of our mind is to meet new people make new friends talk to new guys and maybe you can find the one that trully loves you and doesnt want you for sex only... Just move on he is also not worth your tears you can do better then that.., Oh and about him calling you change your number or tell him a little lie tell him your boyfriend doesnt like you talking to other guys or something on those lines.(but remember dont answer his calls or text) ....I hope you can get him off your mind....Good Luck...
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