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writes:Relationship abuse is a big term that many people might not understand correctly while there people who might have an idea but not know completely what is it. Do you know what relationship abuse is or you just do not care at all? Well every single relationship starts in a different way, each of them have different purposes that contributes with the order in which the relationship develops in the mid time you get to know the person who you are kissing and their qualities. Few people really show their real faces in the beginning of the relationship. What do I mean by that? Well Personally, I think most of the people would come to you pretending to be the greatest boy or girl but is that possible or is just a dream to find a person like that. There are 100 types of people out there with different personalities and different thoughts, out of a hundred there might be 5 or 10 that are interested into having a serious relationship but life is a wheel the spins around it might be possible to find the one. The question is when to know you are dealing with a person who might give you trouble in the future. Well that is easy to determine by knowing them better, but there are few rules you must follow. First do not trusts an stranger, second know you are just getting to know that person observe him/her carefully and third one but no least Dreams are not more than fantasies, do not dream of finding the perfect boyfriend or girlfriend there is not such a thing as half orange, knowing who you are kissing can help you prevent future problems. Be awake never lay on someone’s shoulder because you think he or she is the one because you will be surprise to find out you were wrong. On a relationship there has to be a balance of power and control that is divided into equal parts. Why shall you let your partner control you? Why shall he or she tell you what you can or cannot do? Everything must be established on a relationship each individual deserves respect and Mutual understanding. Don’t let no one fool you a fearless tiger counts for two, remember knowing your partner is a priority you just can’t pretend to be alright when things are not alright. You must take advantage of every chance you get to know who you are with. I do not consider relationship abuse a good thing I think relationship abuse shall not happen in a relationship if there is a healthy relationship, what do I necessarily mean by that? Well a healthy relationship shall not have any aggressions or events that contribute to violence if there is so watch your territory and kick him or her on their weak mind because that is your strongest weapon.Why should you be with a person who behaves like a terrorist? Why terrorist? Because a terrorist destroys everything in his way and someone who transforms love into violence is a terrorist. I personally supported those who take a stand and reject abuse. Assimilation shouldn’t be an issue to a civilized human been. Letting abuse happen and not doing anything about it makes of a person a pathetic giver who gives everything and all it gets in response is suffer. If you are the type of person who likes to observe and then take action than you must be the type of person who does not take abuse in a relationship. I met this friend of my mother Martha who used to let her husband beat her and her children just because he did not have money to drink and he felt miserable about his economy situation. My mother’s friend should have stopped that type of abuse but instead she preferred to let it happen and as is result one of her child die. I felt disgusted because her personal reasons ended with her son’s life. Notice that relationship abuse can start by small things and end up in major thing such as being beat up which is extremely wrong and out of control .You are the owner of your time and you decide whom to spend it with. Society lives in a world full of lies and fakeness. You shall not be in a relationship that makes you feel bad mentally, sexually, and physically or any other type of abuse, instead of arguing for little things worry about major things such as constantly abuse. Abuse guides a person to committed things he or she might never thought of. Remember punching, kicking, smacking and all of that might seem acceptable in some cases because you do not have knowledge of the aggressor’s intension, but if you feel uncomfortable take a stand and stop it. Tempting against your life for someone who abuses you is not worth that is why learn of other experiences and make of them your skills to defend yourself. I do not tolerate abuse, being abuse is being part of it. Having the knowledge to stop abuse makes of you a brave person. Face reality without fear, face fear with dignity. If you stop it on time or at least you know you did not let it happen then there should not be any feeling or oppression against yourself. Therefore, judge those who are around you discretely because it is 100 times worth to be in doubt then find out later who you are dating is an abuser. Know whom you are kissing and you would be enjoining your relationship to the fullest.
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reader, HotANDcold +, writes (29 October 2008):
HotANDcold is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanks a lot for reading the whole article, I must admit it is a long article that mostly not one would read, but you did. I totally agree with you about really getting to know the person even if it seems like you’re going crazy for asking too many questions or trying to find out things about him, I personally think that’s the right way. It s better to question the person on time, right at the moment when your getting to know them that way there wont be future details that would disappoint you.
Perhaps few people might have your knowledge, I think it’s a gift you are so aware of starting relationships because few people out there actually see reality the way it is.
Good Luck In Your Future or present relationship!!!
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reader, HotANDcold +, writes (29 October 2008):
HotANDcold is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks a lot for reading the whole article, I must admit it is a long article that mostly not one would read, but you did. I totally agree with you about really getting to know the person even if it seems like you’re going crazy for asking too many questions or trying to find out things about him, I personally think that’s the right way. It s better to question the person on time, right at the moment when your getting to know them that way there wont be future details that would disappoint you.Perhaps few people might have your knowledge, I think it’s a gift you are so aware of starting relationships because few people out there actually see reality the way it is.Good Luck In Your Future or present relationship!!!
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