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writes:Hello im 21 and I met this guy a few weeks ago on a night out, exchanged numbers and arranged to meet up again. Yesterday he invited me round to his house to watch a film. I went and really enjoyed myself. I got out of a serious 3 year relationship last year and finally made the choice to put myself back out there. We watched the film, and we were cuddling on the sofa as you do. We started kissing and it started to get a bit heated. I stopped and literally said 'can we chill out'. Just wondered if that was a sad thing to say and if he will think im stupid. He stopped anyway and asked if i was ok. I mean we were kissing still afterwards but it wasnt as intense. I like the guy, but didnt want to rush into things especially since my last relationship. Any comments will be appreciated. xxx
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reader, andyb  +, writes (26 June 2008):
good woman, you made the right decision if you were not ready yet. If he likes and respects you then he will wait.
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reader, happytochat  +, writes (26 June 2008):
You have every right to only go as far as you are comfortable with. What you said was fine. IF he thinks any less of you then he isnt a decent guy and you would deserve so much more!
Some guys might find ith ard to understand that a girl wants to take it slow, and rather then realising that they are just trying to protect themself, they may take it personally and think you arent as interested in them as they are in you. So I suggest, if you come to the same situation again, tell him you really like him but want to take things slowly. That will give him a bit of reassurance :)
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