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writes:A few years back my best friend proposed to me. At that time,I did not feel anything. But some time in the last year or so, I believe I have fallen for him. Just when I wanted to tell him, he informed me that he is getting married. Now I am devastated. I am kicking myself for not accepting it in the first place and then not telling him soon enough about my feelings earlier. I don't want to tell him now and disrupt his life. But I needed to get this out of my system. I love him. I really love him. I just want the best for him.
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reader, ouchi +, writes (21 December 2008):
me too :( Im so inlove with a guy that ive known for 5 years now. Im crazy about him and didnt go a day without his face crossing my mind. Hes ina different country now looking for a wife and im devestated.
I wana run up to him and grab him and tell him everything ive ever felt for the past five years. He liked me and I liked him and we both shared our love alot. But I never actually got a chance to tell him hes the one i want, the one and only.
I think we should step it up, we should tell the guy we love how we feel. You only live once, life is about taking chances. And you know what so what if they reject, at least well be satisfied that we did our part and told them. It'll hurt to be rejected for whatever reason, but it will feel incredible once its out. I think im gona tell my guy. It's the hardest thing in the world for me and im usually really good at running guys the way I like. But with him I got to do this or I will have lost the greatest thing to me. im not just kicking myself in the shoe for not telling him, im also on a hunt for super heart glue after I found out that hes off to get married.
I cant stand the feeling, and im sure you cant either. So we got to face reality step up our game and be prepared for whatever answer comes. If it hurts, well it hurts right now not telling him and knowing this is your one chance..doesnt it?
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2007): You should feel happy he's found someone he loves and who he's going to marry. You had your chance and you didn't have the same feelings for him - DON'T go chasing him! Maybe one day you will be able to tell him how you feel [if he is every single again] but let him be happy.In time you'll get over him.
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reader, lisa kathleen gates  +, writes (9 August 2007):
 maybe yes you shouldve taken his offer but there is nothing worse then marrying for the wrong reasons. you should always marry for love,
it seems to me (please donot take offence) he was in a rush to marry. if you truly love him then let him go. you can still be mates and have lots of happy times to come. trust me x
plus his marriage might go up the spout anyway so you can have him then, when the time is right for the both of you. but dont hold your breath.
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