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30-35,
anonymous
writes: So about two months ago, my crush's girlfriend broke up with him. Until then I didn't really know him, but we're in the same major and he likes to hug people so he'd always give me a hug. After a while I got his number and we talked and flirted a lot and hung out a couple times and one night he even kissed me. But then he told me that he had just gotten out of a long, major relationship and he wasn't ready for anything serious. I was a bit upset, but I understood. After that he'd still hug me and text me sometimes. But then he started acting all moody and sad and I found out that it was because he obviously still likes his ex. They still talk and hug and hang out and he says it's because they're best friends. They're not together now, and I don't think they'll get back together, and he's still acting kinda moody and sad. I told him if he ever needed to talk, that I'm here for him and he thanked me, but never opened up to me. Now he doesn't ever hug me, doesn't text me, doesn't really talk to me a lot and seems completely uninterested in even being just friends with me. And right now that's what I want to be. Just friends because I know he's going though a rough time with this girl. What should I do? I really want to be friends with him! But I'm kind of afraid to text him now because I don't want to seem desperate. Please help! Thanks!
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reader, kenny +, writes (28 October 2012):
I think it was sensible and mature of him to say in the beginning that he had just got out of a long relationship and wasen't ready for anything serious. I think you have got to give him some breathing space, some time for him to get himself back together and get his life back on track. I would refrain from texting him to be honest, at least for maybe two or three weeks, who know's maybe after this time he might even have contacted you.
Good luck
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