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writes: Dear Cupid,I'm what most people would probably call overly-sensitive. It doesn't take all that much to bring me to tears. Take last night for example. I was at a party at a friend's house, and the word around the house was that my crush was making out with another girl upstairs...even after he sat there and told me he wouldn't do anything like that with someone he'd just met and doesn't want a girlfriend because he wants to concentrate on his grades. Well, when I found out they were making out, I cried (of course). And then one of my friends was like, "You should go up there and tell them off-maybe it'll embarrass them." and so me, her, and the girl that was having the party went up there, and my crush and the girl turned around and just looked at us and I was like, "I see y'all aren't together," and then I just turned and ran downstairs and locked myself in the bathroom crying.Well, there have been, like, WAY too many events like this one. My question is...could there be something wrong with me? I mean, is it normal to be so overly sensitive-like to the point where just the sight of him TOUCHING another girl is enough to put me on the brink of tears? You might be thinking I'm just crying to get attention, but that is SOOOO not the case. It's really embarrassing to be at parties and see him flirting with other girls and start crying...because then everyone makes a big deal about it. How can I stop being so overly-sensitive? PLEASE help me!Sarah
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reader, Lillia  +, writes (2 January 2007):
 heyaaa.... i am a bit like you i am extremly sensitive i will see him do one little thing and i am off on one upset and that... its a thing that you cannot controll and you just need to show that he does not affect you!
good luck hun
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reader, Astrid  +, writes (2 January 2007):
 Well I recommend sports and afternoon coffees with friends and no party where u can see him auntil u feel ready to go and see him chatting up other girls, maybe a weekend out in another towmn with some girls or organizing a little party yourself without inviting him will show u u can enjoy other people's company and move on I promise it will not matter to u in 3 months or even 3 days as u are in love of a different person than he really is honey he took u in once but men are like this, be strong and move on to notice his real personality has been worth the pain
big hugh for you
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reader, garret +, writes (2 January 2007):
I guess you could be quite a sensitive person by nature but then again your only human like the rest of us. Obviously when you really like someone and you dont get the same feelings back then you are bound to get jealous and upset. You must remember however that you dont own a person, if you two arent together then he is free to date and see whomever he wants. I know its hard but perhaps he doesnt like you in the same way? His loss ofcourse but if that is the case then dont dwell on it, get over him and focus on enjoying yourself. Theres nothing more attractive to a guy than a confident young woman- so take this as a turning point. Work on your confidence issues by telling yourself what a great person you are and believe it!
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 January 2007): I don't think being overly sensitive is the problem, you are pretty in tune with your feelings about your crush, and it is hurtful to see him in action with another girl when you like him...that is pretty common.
The real problem is why do you put yourself in the position of being around him at parties and confronting him when he does these things in front of you instead of perhaps leaving the party.
This boy is not returning your feelings and I am not sure you have indicated to him of your romantic interest...if you have and he is not interested in you, the best thing to do is to get some distance both emotionally and physically by not hanging around him for awhile or even talking to him or texting him or phoning him, etc.
You can't make yourself less sensitive or care less, but you can choose how you handle yourself when you are upset....if he did nothing to you personally (he is not your boyfriend so he has the right to make out with a girl if he wants to do so) then don't get angry and confrontational and cry in the bathroom, get ahold of yourself and leave the premises and keep on walking....
If he does know how you feel about him and the two of you are friends, then maybe you can tell him how it hurts you when he kisses a girl at a party that you are attending and ask him what he would like to do about it, like maybe not go to the same parties, or respect you enough not to be making out with another girl in the corner bedroom upstairs, or would he prefer that you just not hang out at all and talk to each other....if he says he thinks you need to get over it, then I guess you have to decide how you are going to do that....I personally would not be able to be at the same parties until I no longer felt jealous or cared too much what he was doing, and I don't think that makes you overly sensitive, you just happen to like him more than he likes you for the time being I guess, it happens and you have to find ways to deal with it so that you don't get upset for nothing....I mean you are not having a good time right---so leave. Or maybe he just doesn't know you like him, and if you let him know, who knows maybe he will feel the same way, but be prepared if he does not....
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