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writes:I am currently talking to a guy and his been trying to talk to me for 2 maybe 3 years now and I either ignore him or talk to him but for the 1st 3 min only.Well this time i decided to talk to him and we have been talking for quite a while but not too long like 2 months or one. He asked me if I would ever give him a chance I said yes depending on how far we go as friends.Now I wish I would have never said yes, I really do not want a relationship, and I feel bad that he is here talking to me wasting time when he could be talking to someone that really wants to be with him.I really don't know if I should just stop talking to him or be straight up.. Reply to this Question
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (22 April 2016):
 Yes don't play it out, just be honest with him about what you want.
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reader, Name +, writes (21 April 2016):
Name is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell I am sure he likes me I am just afraid he will only play but since he has been trying to talk to me forever I guess not?
He said he is in a divorce plan so idk. I guess it is better to be honest like you said instead of putting it aside and making it longer...
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reader, aunt honesty +, writes (21 April 2016):
He has been chasing you for two or three years and it is only now you think to let him know the truth? Why did you entertain the idea with him at all, are you scared he is going to stop giving you attention? Find someone else he likes? It is almost like you are playing mind games with this poor boy.
No don't just stop talking to him again as it will make him feel sad and yet he will still hold on to hope that you will reply some time again, it sounds already like he has low self esteem when he accepts you coming in and out of his life.
You need to be honest with him and tell him straight out how you feel, yes it is difficult but it is also brave and the right thing to do. My guess is that this guy really likes you and it is going to hurt him to hear this, but the more you put it off the more he is going to get hurt.
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