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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I've just started a new school, and I was really friendly. I talk to people, but sometimes I feel ignored. I want to be friends with some other girls because they look friendly and they have more in common with me than the other few girls hanging around me. It's always really awkward whenever I'm forced into talking to anybody nice, and they always seem really comfortable around people. I feel that because I floated between girls I don't have a set friendship group and this makes me unhappy. I just want people to like me but I feel ignored, and self-concious. My sister was really popular when she went to this school and I feel I have to live up to that. And I want to live up to that, because my sister is the coolest person you will ever meet! How can I become friends with people whose friendship groups are already determined and are reluctant to talk to me because they already have friends? Reply to this Question
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reader, tennisstar88  +, writes (9 September 2010):
 You ever watch that movie Mean Girl with Lindsay Lohan? Now you just can't start busting into cliques, those groups are tight nit and have often been friends since they were in diapers. Outsiders aren't often welcome..The only way you get into those popular cliques is if the popular guys start noticing you and ask you out then those cliques will have to accept you. You are a key player on whatever sport is popular in your high school, that's a high rise to fame. Or you start going to the same parties they do and rubbing elbows with them, hoping the next day they acknowledge you and weren't too drunk last night to remember that you held their hair back while they prayed to the porcelain god. The first 2 or shoe ins the last one doesn't work that well. I know too many younger people who weren't as popular as their older sibling. For now you're just going to have to take what you can get, be yourself, and start being friendly with everyone sitting around you in class. You can't just jump to the top you have to start at the bottom and work your way up. Yes, that means talking to the little people.
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