Just sex or more.....I wanna know from a males point of view.

A female age 36-40, anonymous writes:

I met this guy when I was going on vacation. I turned to throw something away and he said "Is there anything I can do to make you smile." I could help but smile and say "You tell me." We talked while I waited for the peter pan bus.(He's a manager there). He asked me not to go on vacation, but to go out with him. I said no. Before I got on my bus he asked to see my phone. A day later I realize that he stored his name and number in my phone. I had to call....he was a real sweet heart and gorgeous, but I had a feeling he was trouble. When I came back home I didn't tell him because I wasn't sure of him still. I ran into him while I was talking on my cell. He was upset I didn't tell him I was coming in, so he leans forward and closes my phone in the middle of my call and whispers something in my ear that drives me crazy. Eventually we hook up, but we agree we don't want a relationship just sex. He's in jersey and I'm on Long Island. The first time is amazing...the room was literally spinning in slow motion, also he loves to perform oral on me for some reason. We are complete opposites and he's a very closed person. I know he has other flings and it doesn't bother me, but I'm only having sex with him(By choice not force) Anyway after 3 times he starts to get personal, telling me things you don't tell a sex buddy but I listen. He tells me about the other girls that he's with...how they all fall for him but he just wants sex from them. He asks me persoal questions but I keep it short and sweet. He compliments me all the time out of the blue. On day he calls at 2am and I press ignore thinking it's my first alarm for work. When I do speak to him he's really angry with me. I explained that I didn't know that he was calling and he says that I probably had a guy over and hung up on him. He finally beleives me and forgives me, but a few weeks later he gets upset because he sees me talking to my best friend. He says to me "how do I look waiting for you and your all over some other guy." I don't understand I thought we were just sex buddies. Later that night I hear my phone go off while I'm in the shower. When I get out to check the text.......it's already open. He doesn't say that he read it but he starts questioning me about my best friend and becomes angry again. He tells me about a girl that he's been dealing with that is falling in love with him and she got angry because she went through his phone and saw my texts to him.Once I went to his house and she was standind outside. He walks up to her, kisses her and we go inside. Then he asks if he can go across the street to talk to her because she sensitive and he didn't want to be mean. He said he lke the fact that I wasn't like that. I could see them talking from his window but they never even got close. The next week I texted him look...your an amazing guy and if you wanted to be more then sex buddies then I'd be fine with that. He just apologizes for getting angry. Then I don't hear from him again until 2 months later. He calls and asks if I'm with anyone and I say no. He tells me he's sorry and feels like he owes me an explaination. He tells me that he let one on his flings(The girl who falls for him) get to comfortable and he accidently gets here pregnant, but she lost the baby. She walks into the room...he's says I'll call you back. We both changed our numbers and have no way of contacting each other. Was this guy falling for me or does he just want to have his cake and eat it 2.

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