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*edhead123
writes:Me and my girl were supposed to be taking a break from each other but still datin.. i was only gone 2 days and on the third i decided to pop up and see what she's doing but wen i arrived, she had another dude over and he was like... they had been dating for a week now and weve been dating for two years... he tells me she told him she wasnt gay and she flexed on me like i didnt mean shit to her when everybody was confronting everybody... the day before i had a lot of roses and bears deliverdd to her job for vday and when i went to cancel the order they said it was too late so... and they get delivered today.... i still have love for her and i still think on how she did me and it hurts... what should i do and how do i just get over our 2 years of love???
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reader, redhead123 +, writes (19 February 2011):
redhead123 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionshe was just like she dnt want us to talk to anybody else and that she truly loved me and couldnt c her self with anybody but yet she cheated... i still wonder to dis day does she think about me or even misses me.. bc 2 years of love and she just let it go.........
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (15 February 2011):
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You're not together with the person and wanting time apart. Now unless there are rules specified such as you two aren't to date anyone else and take this time to figure out what is going on. Most of the time these breaks are a nice way of breaking up. Rarely, breaks ever benefit a troubled relationship. So FYI a break means you're not together, so you're technically broken up. The couple just chooses to call it a break, to see if they will get back together in time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 February 2011): A break doesn't mean you were broken up. A break can mean other people are allowed or not, depending on how the couple agrees.
A lot of the time one partner is really asking for a break just to use this potential misunderstanding against their partner. They know their partner will assume nobody else is really going to be involved. So they will secretly get with someone else and claim they weren't cheating if they get caught.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (13 February 2011):
How are you on a break, but still dating? A break means you are broken up. Did you specify certain rules and stipulations during this break, such as you two weren't allowed to see anyone else? If you two were still dating then you weren't on a break. So she may have not potentially cheated.
Either way she's moved on and isn't gay, or perhaps she just wanted to explore what it was like to be with a girl. Now, she's sticking with the wiener. There's nothing you can do but move on as well. Start hanging out at the local gay bars, dancing with other girls to get your mind off of her, perhaps surround yourself with friends and family that love you. Time will heal, you jst have to allow it.
I'm sorry that it happened around this time, and that you couldn't get your money back.
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reader, justme.  +, writes (13 February 2011):
Well if she says anything to you about the whole gift thing at work then just tell her you made a mistake. As for you, you should go out with your friends, party hard, find another girl, and make sure she isn't the cheating type! Give your friends all of your attention now, that is what is best! Ofcourse if you loved her very much and still do, she will always remain as the girl you loved but moving on is nothing bad! Just stay with your friends and when you really think your ready to move on and find another girl, trust me you will! good luck x
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