A
male
age
30-35,
*ndrew loves hali
writes:hi and i know this is long but please read it cause i just really need help from anyone please, im a 15 year old boy and just got out of a two year relationship. well my girlfriend (ex now) and i were very good friends before we started going out shes a year older than me but were in the same grade. she has went out with two other people besides me one who was three years older than her and one that was 1 year older than her the 3 year one was just summer love and the 1 year one was ended cause he cheated on her lots of times and he moved away. she has liked other people besides me and the two others but never went out with them and one night she told me she liked someone else but not enough to go out with him and yeah i was a lil angry but she said she wouldnt leave me so i stayed with her. another night she told me she was textin her ex (the one that cheated on her) and she said she hated him but yet she can still talk to him. i didnt like this at all and i told her that and she said well i think i should be able to talk to who ever i want to. that mad me mad and we get into fight about this ex alot so that night i said well you can go be happy with him and we'll not go out anymore you know what she said she said "im game" which surprised me cause i thought she loved me but maybe not enough to try to keep us together? its been about 2 or 3 weeks cents we actually broke up and its been hard but i just have to get on with my life and its not easy. i really miss her and i blame myself for us breaking up cause maybe i overreacted? i think she doesnt love me, i wonder if shes happy, i wonder if she misses me too. i cant ask her cause we agreed to stop talking to each other. i cry every night and think about how i mess everything up. i know i could get her back if i wanted to but sometimes one part of me says dont do it and the other says you know you cant live without her. what do you think? should i just move on and forget about her? or should i try and get her back? and the longest we've ever broken up was um about 7 days and we broke up cause of that ex. i really need advice im heartbroken and im only 15. anyone please.
View related questions:
broke up, heartbroken, her ex, move on, text Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
male
reader, Moviefan +, writes (5 March 2009):
 Forgive and forget, its the 3 best words i can tell you. Yeah you had a little part in her decision but it sounds like she was just waiting for an excuse to dump you and run back to her ex who will likely hurt her. Its may sound cold but sometimes its best to let someone get hurt until they learn from their mistakes. Let her go and realize what she had in you and how much of a jerk guys can be. If she can leave so easily and not come back she was never really yours anyway. After that its up to you to decide what to do next is she comes back will you take her back, and give her the chance to do the same sort of thing or move on and find someone new to love.
After all your young, and there are so many people on this earth with there own flaws, ideals, traits you could love. After all thats what makes this world so dam beautiful.
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (5 March 2009): When you are young you allow yourself and your heart to be more vulnerable. This is why first love hurts sooo much. Chances are it is just not meant to be because she seems to be interested in other people. I know it might feel like you can't live without her but I promise you that you can. It seems intense now simply because you have to face her maybe everyday and maybe you have mutual friends that bring up the topic. But you can move on from this. When you look back at the relationship you had I am sure if you are objective you can take note of all the insecurities you both had and the miscommunications. If you are really honest you will find the relationship was never that stable.
But who knows...maybe after she dates a few guys she will regret giving you up, but DON"T depend on that. Move on and do other things with friends. Invest yourself in your hobbies in school work and thing will eventually turn out okay. Try not to dramatize the situation. Just state the facts: You were together, she expressed interest in other guys and the relationship eventually ended because neither of you were very happy.
She is not the only pretty girl out there. There will be many many more that you meet. Try to think on your time with your ex fondly (the good times and all) and be realistic about what went wrong. Don't give yourself all sorts of time to dwell on the details. Yes, MOVE ON.
The first broken heart takes the most time to heal but I promise there is light at the end of your tunnel.
...............................
|
